We have been together 5 years now.
At first it was cuddles and affection and trips and made me feel on a high all the time.
5 years down the line ..slowly it’s all changed.
When I try and talk to him about anything ..he says I’m trying to cause a argument and he will raise his voice and shout.
Hes only affectionate on his terms.
He will flip any argument so im the bad person.
The only family I have left is my dad and him.
Last night I was upset,health worries and I just asked him for a quick cuddle ..he said no.
He said you know I hate cuddling ,I just said I just needed something.
He flipped saying I had caused a argument and today he was away with work and he hoped he would crash his car and I would forever know our last night together was a argument caused by me.
Then he said he would not ring me when he got there so I would worry he crashed (my anxiety is bad at the minute due to past trauma and loosing family )
I obviously got upset and he said I was fake crying.
Anyway I apologised and then this morning he said he would cuddle now,so we cuddled In bed before he left .
Was I wrong to ask for a cuddle ? Knowing his not a fan ?
i stupidly do it when I’m sad and I know it causes arguments.