Valentines Day

[EagerGreenShaker]

What are you buying your partner for Valentines Day?

Fuck all because it's all commercial crap

Well, only if that’s what you make it. It’s possible to have a lovely St Valentine’s Day without any of that.

Reminds me of all the posts around Christmas with people complaining about plastic tat and commercial rubbish. You can literally choose how you celebrate events- it doesn’t have to be “buy a load of overpriced rubbish” or nothing.

I got him flowers, we don’t live together and (some) men like flowers too!

Treating ourselves to a steak dinner (at home). Don’t often have steak unless we go out, so nice to have an excuse to treat ourselves

I think if you don’t have a great relationship then going all out on Valentines is ridiculous (and hypocritical) but in a good relationship it’s nice to treat yourselves once in a while, and today is as good a day as any

But you do sneer at the people who sneer at people so at least you get a bit of sneering into your day 👍

We agreed just cards. So I gave just a card which I left on the mat so he’d see it before he went to work. When I got up from bed I text him and he asked if I was sat in my usual chair to which I replied I was. He told me to look behind the cushion. There was a gift 🎁. Inside was a lovely pendant which I put on a chain. Then he came home from work and brought the kids McDonalds breakfast and handed me the rubbish. As I looked at the rubbish there was another present inside it so I opened it and there was a chain to go with the pendant. The he mentioned the dust on the bookshelf and as I looked at the shelf to say “cheeky sod I dusted that the other day” I noticed another present 🎁 on the shelf. Inside were matching gold earrings. Ffs. I gave him a bloody card 🤦🏻‍♀️

The sneering makes me think of my neighbours. About 6 years ago we invited our new neighbours in for a drink. It was around Valentines Day and our cards to each other were on the sideboard.

They came in hand in hand and struggled to get through the front door and living room door as they did not let go of each other's hand. They sat on the settee holding hands all the time even though it meant one of them had to use their left hand to hold the drink (they were both right handed). Oh and they were both in their late 30's so not lovestruck teenagers.

She made a remark about the cards along the lines of "oh you give each other cards" to which I just replied "yes" so no big deal. She then said "oh we don't as we show love all year. We believe cards and presents are not important if you show love every day" to which he agreed. I didn't answer.

About a month later they were screaming and shouting at each other and he called her a "fucking c**t". For the next 6 or so months they argued and screamed and shouted with both calling each other vile names. They then split up! So much for the showing love every day.

I've got him some beer and some new cycling gloves. His old ones are worn out and he's been complaining his hands were freezing this week. He's playing golf today so I've also got him some bar cart credits so he can have a few drinks on the way around the course. He's supposed to be cooking tonight but that depends on how many afore mentioned drinks are consumed so could be a take away!. We'll see ❤️

Yes! 😂 we always celebrate the day! Married fir 30+ years too!

Are they? Which law is that??

I’ve painted a card for my partner and bought him some chocolates. He’s bought me flowers and cooking a lovely meal. It’s an excuse for me to paint and to have a nice meal. We both love rugby so we are watching that as well.

Some chocolates, a card, and I made a clay rose 🌹 (I was doing pottery with DD(9) and thought I’d make him one!)
Low key here.

Been married for 8 years this year, I got him a card and the £25 dine in for 2 from M&S

I'm obviously going against the trend here but I love any excuse for a celebration. Got mine a selection of doughnuts from the bakery and made a card that said " I doughnut know what I'd do without you, Happy Valentine's". Because I love a pun 😂

Bought equally offensive cards that can only go on display in our bedroom as the DSC would be mortified 😂
he made me a fabulous lunch and a chilled day together, watching the end of Yellowstone tonight (yes we are about 5yrs behind!)

Didn't realise valentines gets so much hate!

17 years together we get cards and little gifts. This year he got some fancy beers and I got flowers and chocolate. We have 2 young children so the plan later is to hope bedtime goes well and we manage an hour or 2 alone before we fall asleep.

Been together 30 years, we've exchanged cards and DH gave me flowers. I am cooking him his favourite Thai curry and I've made scones we'll have later with cream and homemade jam.

I love Valentine's Day in theory, despite having had some awful ones. (I like special occasions, and love of all kinds seems a worthwhile thing to celebrate to me!).

And I had the best one today that I can remember
I have started seeing my ex again, and we are currently both on our best behaviour I think so as not to repeat the mistakes of the past. (Just hope we can keep it up.....).

I got him a card with an X-rated joke on it and something for us both to enjoy in the bedroom..... Felt a bit bad because he got me a book he had clearly thought hard about (and which is excellent - I have already started it). To be fair, he never used to get me anything that I can remember, so I didn't want to get him something lovely and end up looking stupid.....

Anyway, I also made him a heart shaped cake! So I feel it's balanced out in the end.

And we went for a lovely dog walk, then he took me to the Crem where my recently deceased dad's ashes are scattered (I can't drive and it's not on a bus route, so he suggested this which was a genuinely lovely thing!). Then we went for a coffee at a nice coffee shop we both like.

Then back home. Spent some time in bed....Now just chilling, reading, and I am making a curry (I like to cook).

I've had my fair share of disappointing Valentine's Days in my life, but this one has been an unexpected pleasure!

We too love any excuse for a celebration. Birthdays and our wedding anniversary are all celebrated (neither of us have ever worked our birthday in the 46 years we have known each other as we either go away or, at least, go out for the day).

Valentines varies from year to year but we always give each other a card and usually a present. Sometimes we go out for the day, sometimes we go away, sometimes have a meal out, sometimes a takeaway, sometimes a dine in deal.

My parents were married for 68 years when they died and always celebrated Valentines with a card and a small present.

I spotted a good cherry scented candle (my husband's favourite), with the pun 'I Love You Cherry Much' about a month ago and hid it away. I had a lot of fun gifting it to him.

Easter? Other than eggs what are Easter presents? That’s made up!

Exactly! But people do apparently buy Easter presents. And MD and FD presents and Valentine's presents. Madness. Presents are Christmas and birthdays only.

I just don't understand how you can feel so strongly about other people buying presents for other people.

I sometimes buy presents for my friends/family on a totally normal day, just because I love them. And same back. One of my best friends gave me a lovely handmade bookmark she had bought for me on Thursday. Wasn't my birthday, Christmas, anything. She just wanted to give me something nice.

For all those people who object to Valentine's Day gifts, as long as nobody is forcing you to give or receive them, how can it harm you?

Why do you think I feel that strongly? For the approximately 7 and half minutes a year I think about it at all I judge it weird and silly and then forget about it again.

Why you think that translates into me feeling harmed is beyond me.