My DH always puts other peoples feelings and desires before mine and kids. For example when eldest DD dumped her boyfriend it was all about her being unkind and how is ex bf going to feel now she needs to accept him for who he is. Another example when kids were little they weren't allowed to play outside as not fair on the neighbours to hear kids outside on their days off and now and now DH has decided that DS can't take the last space in his sports team as that means that there is not room for anyone else.
He does everything for everyone else he is the first person to help my nan if she needs a hand with anything and he will make sure all the neighbours bins are out on the right day but if I want him to take my youngest to a birthday party or pick up one of the older children from a party he won't do it. I can't work out why he is so considerate to other people but not to me or his children? I can't fathom him out, He says we need to think of other people before ourselves.
Can't work out if I am being selfish or not.