Bedroom issues in new relationship

[LonlyHeartsClub]

Wasn't sure the best place to post this and have NC for personal reasons.

I (29) have been dating/in a relationship with a guy (33) for the past (almost) 7 months. When we met things were on fire chemistry wise both inside and out of the bedroom, and I have genuinely started to develop really strong feelings for him. At times when we were initmate he would get very excited and emotionally invested quite quickly, attentive and pretty much finishing within 10/15 mins, which wasnt an issue because i did too.
However it has recently become very obvious that something has changed drastically and i dont know how to feel about it all. He can no longer finish in the bedroom at all without a lot of stimulation, at times he has admitted to 'faking it', positions have changed to the point where hes trying 5 in one session, he's somehow become vocal with dirty talk and doesn't really do foreplay anymore expect some weird thing mid sex where it seems like he is stimulating/touching himself.
I get things can change over time as things get comfortable but this feels different. It is really confusing and actually quite hurtful now where i am starting to think the problem is me (he says its not) so I am having to shut off any emotion just to go along with having sex at the moment.

I just wanted some advice. TIA x

It’s not just that the sex is bad, it’s worse in that he has projected it all on you. He doesn’t want to address it so absolutely right to end it.

Just an update, thanks for all the responses I have had. I have broken up with him after realising that the answer to why things have changed doesn't really matter anymore its not like i am going to ever find out anyways. It is more so the fact that I am starting to feel very insecure and blamed for things that aren't my fault or under my control and it is beginning to affect me more than i knew. As expected he hasn't taken this decision very lightly.

Well done for ending the relationship and you’re right, why he’s treating you like this doesn’t matter. What does matter is that you’ll be much better without him.

When you say he’s not taken it lightly, exactly how is he behaving?

Well done OP. Stay strong and don't take this one back. It won't get any better.

Well done OP. A partner is supposed to care, support and uplift you but he blamed and ranted at you whilst minimising his part in the relationship. It would have only got worse the longer you were together.

This is who he is @LonlyHeartsClub ! Before he was just faking it as he admitted. I would leave tbh. One thing if you had been together for years with dc but you are too young and the relationship too new to deal with this shit.

Well done and good for you!

He’s spending his spare time wanking and getting off to the vilest porn - can guarantee this 1000% 🤢🤮 chuck him back! It doesn’t get any better!

Coercively abusive men and porn seem to go together for some reason 🤷‍♀️ id advise reading the woman’s aid programme on how to get over relationships that are going bad where they are blaming you for things and also how to avoid ending up in the same situation again without wasting months of your life to get to that point x

Well he put up a hell of a front to draw you in. This is the real him.

Honestly end things with him. The first year of a relationship is the best bit where you look back fondly many years later and you've had a row over the dishes.

He is definitely a porn addict.

Porn.
get rid of him.

Tgis seems like very good advice.