Is coffee really that important? (lighthearted)

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This is going to be drama-free. For some reason, the last few weeks in multiple aspects of my life I have seen/read people saying a potential partner not drinking coffee is a dealbreaker. Seen it pop up in some threads here, heard a coworker say it a few weeks back and today a friend was listing reasons why she decided not to go on a second date with a guy...

Did I miss something? Did this become the latest nonsense to be given more importance than it should be? I might be an old-fashioned guy in an old-fashioned marriage, but for some reason me not drinking coffee never caused a stir in my marriage with a coffee-drinking wife. Just like how I am not fussed about which flavour crisps she's choosing for an afternoon snack...haha

My life long bestie doesn't like coffee which is fine. Thankfully she does drink a lot of tea like me or I donk think We could be friends!

I had a partner who didn’t drink coffee or tea and I found it v weird tbh. Especially as they’d drink coke instead. It gave me big ick

As far as discussions go @DaffodilTuesday , it really depends on the angle. You can't compare the two when it comes to historical significance. Sure. But you can compare them as things people enjoy consuming... See my point? It really depends on the context. Nobody was debating the historical impact here... and said impact has nothing to do with how much people would enjoy drinking it in the morning, or how problematic some of them find it if another person doesn't drink any. That was the topic.

Oh, I guess I thought cultural and historical context matters to how people engage with the product of which consuming it is part i.e it has more meaning in people’s lives than a crisp flavour choice.
I didn’t realise we can only post if we absolutely follow your defined boundaries of acceptable interventions where coffee drinking = crisp flavour in significance to the topic as defined by you. My mistake.

@DaffodilTuesday Not seeing how it absolutely has nothing to do with the topic, is almost as crazy as the people who think less of those who don't drink coffee. I could have easily said eating chocolate for the sake of that specific argument. Which was focussing on CONSUMING something orally and swallowing it after deciding that it would taste good, and the person would benefit from consuming in, either in satisfaction or nutrition. Would chocolate tick the relevant boxes? It genuinely matters not for the sake of the argument: Someone looking at someone else who doesn't drink coffee and goes 'ew that's odd'. That person's opinion is not even a little bit impacted by this historical significance that you can't seem to disregard. You know what I mean? I look at a person with a cup in their hand. WHAT THIS PERSON HAS CHOSEN TO HAVE IN THE CUP DOES NOT IMPACT MY LIFE.. and if the same person has a bag of crisps in their hand, whatever flavour the person chose has the same impact on my life: NONE. That was the parallel. Nothing else outside of it.

Honestly, find me one person, just one, who would see why this would be relevant in the scope of the topic.

I must be weird, I don’t drink coffee, tea or fizzy drinks, neither does DH. I’ve never liked them and I don’t like sugary tasting drinks either. When we go to visit
or meet friends we normally have water, I don’t see anything odd in having a personal preference to what we drink. I’m not going to drink something to make others feel comfortable.

Some loser on social media who mistakes a performative penchant for coffee for a personality.
Ignore, OP.

I’m allergic to caffeine and it’s quite amazing the number of people who make a rude remark if I order decaffeinated coffee. People are strange.

I don't drink coffee, can't stand it. I rarely drink tea. Maybe I am immature, I don't feel like a grown up! My DP loves coffee, I'm glad me not liking coffee wasn't a deal breaker for him! I mainly drink water at home, fizzy drinks, juice or hot chocolate when out.

I know some people are shocked when I say I don't drink tea or coffee. That's why I sometimes drink tea if I can't be arsed explaining again that I don't drink them. Tea is the lesser evil.

One thing is for sure - I am almost 40, I very rarely meet anyone at all who also don't drink coffee, so if anything, this was interesting to learn from this thread that there are many many out there like myself who don't :)

It is weird. I live in London and lots of train stations now have some kind of coffee hut there. My two nearest ones do on a normal branch line. I don't get people's obsession with it. I'd rather a nice cup of strong tea anyday. But never on the move, I'm not that desperate for a cuppa.

I do find people who don’t drink hot drinks weird … 🤷🏼‍♀️ I suppose it’s a social thing. When someone comes to my house I offer them a cup of tea or coffee…if we meet up when we’re out it’s often for a coffee. I like tea or coffee in bed at the weekends …the idea of a Diet Coke or glass of water is just not the same. It could be a deal breaker 😂 www.instagram.com/reel/DUD4PN_DAYg/?igsh=cXQ3dG1zdjB1NDR6

Coffee is vital to my existence. DP doesn't drink it. I just take a portable espresso maker with me to his house.
Probably I get on with him better as coffee isn't a discussion, whereas I'm unlikely to get on with someone who drinks coffee but thinks their type is better - I'm just double espressos all day, but if you think filter coffee is the best we're not going to make it 😂

Coffee is vital to my existence. Mine too. I don't come to life until I've had 2 coffees in the morning.

Now I have dilemna now then as my DH drank coffee when we met but has recently given it up. I think divorce is my only option here...😁

It's interesting isn't it? I've recently met an amazing guy. He's an espresso guy. I had to avoid caffeine for a few days (long medical story why) and he was so excited when I texted him that I can drink coffee again. Just said that our little espresso ritual, like one bringing the other a coffee to bed, or us stopping at a coffee shop to take a break and people much, is one of his favourite things.

Suppose it's like being a wine buff or really into baking, and not being able to share it with your nearest and dearest.

I'm a non-drinker and I can totally understand why someone who's really into alcohol wouldn't date me. Alcohol is a lifestyle, meaning pub visits, restaurant meals, nights out, all of them getting tipsy and silly. There's been guys who are drinkers trying to date me and it just really doesn't work.

Coffee is a lifestyle as well, all these little breaks throughout the day. Sure, one can have coffee and the other tea, juice, whatever. It shouldn't matter, and personally for me it hasn't mattered in the past. However, for some people it's a huge part of their everyday, and it's just a bit sad not shared.

I think it is probably the social aspect of the coffee shop culture. I am a coffee snob with an expensive machine and fresh beans but i like to consume my coffee alone at home when i am the only one up in the mornings. It's a short period of time for reflection and a pause before the day starts.

So my coffee is very important to me and it enriches my life. But it wouldnt bother me if a partner wasnt a coffee drinker as i rarely do the coffee shop thing.

I have to say i am a non drinker (alcohol) and i would struggle to accept a partner who was a big drinker. That would be a deal breaker for me as that is more of a values/lifestyle thing. Coffee drinking is just a choice and doesnt say much about the person. Unless they drink instant LOL

I do find it odd when people don't drink any hot drinks at all, because I enjoy the shared experience. Tea or coffee in bed in the morning, or stopping at a coffee shop for a hot drink etc etc. It's not a deal breaker though and while I drink tea I don't drink coffee so I totally accept that other people will be the other way round.