I'm feeling insecure about my bfs relationship with another woman

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I know it might be harder to give advice without many details, but I don't want to be too specific. They have known each other for longer than I have known him and seem to have a relationship between themselves and rely on each other for advice and give a lot of personal information to each other which is great except she is female. They are so involved with each others lives and may as well be the ones married.
I am looking for ways to deal with this as I don't want to seem effected, and for advice of other women who have dealt with this and whether there is a sneaky way to get it all shut down without wasting a lot of my energy or breaking up

I know I shouldn't care but he's just messages me told me that I'm crazy and he's been seeing someone else which makes a lot of sense and I feel so much worse, will I start to feel better I just feel so lied to and it's hard to trust anyone

So he’s admitting he’s been cheating?
well he sounds awful anyway , best rid

Block him!

So it wasn't the friend that was the problem at all. I hope you feel silly now for scheming to remove her from his life!

It's never the one you think it is.

I feel ill with it which is the last thing I need with everything else going on in my life. I'm trying to ground myself. I've been told he's been trying to emotionally manipulate me into feeling responsible so that I stay and try to fix it which has been going on for a while and keeps me stuck.

He had been going out saying it was to see friends now hes revealed it was sometimes to see the person hes just revealed. He's saying theyre not together but have been friendly with each other for a few weeks. I think he's lying about that and been saying her for longer, I think I know who it is as well I feel sick. I know I'm over thinking. I need to calm down has anyone got any tips and advice so I don't turn into a crazy person.

If you've ended it, why are you still in contact? This was not a lovely relationship where there were romantic incompatibilities but you can stay friends, this was a problematic relationship. He's poking at you and trying to get under your skin to hurt you.

Block him everywhere. Lose his #. If you see him, ignore him. If he tries to talk to you, tell him to leave you alone. He's dead to you and the dead don't text or call.

Block him
watch some absolute trash tv and have an early night

Block him - I mean he is showing you even more of his true colours to be behaving like this now. Block him from every single way of contacting you, order some takeaway and have an early night with your favourite TV show.

I've just bought a TV license now and am watching east enders. I had a takeaway last night but will make myself a hot chocolate.

Excellent - self care is really important. Good for you - this is the first step to moving on. Don't forget the blocking though!