Spicing up your sex life

[devilsavacado]

What do you do to spice up your sex life?

Sex is always good but it always seems to follow the same routine.

Cuddle and kiss for a bit.

Bit of foreplay

Then a few positions and bingo.

Gets the desired effect but would like it to be a bit more varied.

Any ideas?

All sex boils down to a peg and a hole at the end of the session, doesn't matter what else you do, it all boils down to the same thing If you're happy, why change it?

littlewoman-suspose you are right,

I just feel I should be doing something extra .

Maybe a case of me over thinking too much.

dressing up?

Well just be creative. Men are not very creative, there are some, but most aren't. I know my guy like push-uppy underwear, (yes, 'fraid mine needs it too). I also 'brew' him, send him a hot txt and lead him on all day.. Its the brain that gets turned on in the end, the thought of, the memory of, the suggestion of. Then I sat with a glass of wine in a pair of bad arsed boots thong and fishnet tights (that are a struggle to get off) but stocking look awful on me, legs too short...LOL.. and one of those push-uppers.. sat there on the kitchen table and all hell let loose when he walked in the door. Thing is I was scared someone else would walk in and catch me like that and wonder what the hell was wrong with me, mid-day, sitting there like that. So plan it, have a glass of wine to chill... and set the scene. It doesn't take much, and guys are so visual it doesn't take a lot to get it rolling and enjoyable. Work on their brain first though...

A good sex-life is worth making an effort for. Its the glue in a relationship. So even if it means taking a day of for the privacy, or getting the children sorted at some aunts for a couple of hours... do it. I think a lot of couples leave it to chance instead of planning and giving it priority. even if you don't feel like it that much, once you get started with a txt and a response, you'll see the flame flicker right back up, just at the prospect of it. Its important to prioritise it for what it is...

Each of you share a fantasy with each other, and if it's acceptable to the other, try it.

Sex doesn't have to be about the act itself.
The build-up can be just as fun.
Spend time together, spoiling each other.
Rather than just getting jiggy, flirt with each other, all day, without touching.

Least you get sex!! lucky thing I am soo envious! enjoy it however it is!

"I just feel I should be doing something extra"

That 'should' bothers me If it's good what has 'should' got to do with it?

But I agree with vs. Long build up works.

I sprinkle cumin on my DHs bollocks

ok but can I just ask - I would worry that if dh suggested a fantasy I would be horrified, or if I did, he would be horriefied, and things would never be the same again ! Thats what puts me off speaking up.
Our sex life is good when it happens, which is not too much with 3 kids, but has stayed the same for a long long time....

So start with the mild ones. There are very few things that offensive actually. As long as you aren't involving small animals, electricity or physical danger, how bad can it be.

You've had three kids, that's far more scary than saying 'I'd like you to spank me' etc.