How many dates* in were you when you realised...

[BreezyPeachGoose]

...they were the one?

*(feel free to substitute "dates" for months or years)

I don’t know if there was ever a specific moment where I realised. I suppose about ten years in I was like ‘ah, we’re doing pretty good here. I could do another fifty of this!’

Oh before we even went out tbh. I sort of knew him (small talk in the passing every few months maybe) for years before. I knew for a long time before we agreed a date. The date confirmed it. We married just under 3 months later.

After about 20 minutes of the first date, cheesy but true, 25 years this year!

Second.

I knew he was meant to be someone important in my life. I didn’t think we would marry and have a family but I remember clearly the moment I knew he would be a part of my life for a while.

It was at about the 6 month point.

Dh and I met working abroad (from different countries, living in a 3rd country). Visa issues became such that realistically we’d probably be looking at leaving sooner rather than a later planned date. I didn’t want to leave, because I did really like Dh but was totally realistic that it was likely to be more of a ‘holiday romance’ unless we decided we were definitely serious before we both moved back home.

I was trying to make the decision to stay or go and finding it hard. One night dh was just like, let’s go home, I’m in this with you for life and if you are too, we’ll make it work somehow. And it was like it all just clicked and I knew. That was 18 years ago now and we are still very happily married.

We did about 8 months living abroad in the same place, another 4-5 months traveling a bit, then 2 years long distance on opposite sides of the world, we got married just shy of our 3 year anniversary of when we started dating.

2

He felt mine the second i saw him x

Date 2 - I don’t believe in “the one” but I remember thinking on date 2 I could marry this guy

I knew before we were together. We worked very closely together for 10 years before we got together.

I felt it straight away and we’ve been living together since our 3rd date (I did keep my place for about 4 months but was never there so then gave up my tenancy). That was 15 years ago.

Thanks for all your replies, they are very warming, please do keep them coming

After our 1st date now DH went home & said to his sister I'm going to marry this girl. He proposed 6 weeks later.

Before we dated but we’re hanging out as friends spending 3 months telling everyone we were just friends. First proper conversation I told him he should shave the goatee… next time I saw him he had. It was the right call 😆 (married 21 years, together 24).

We met through a hobby, both going out with other people so were just friends for a bit, but I knew he was 'the one'.

About 6 weeks in OH proposed...I turned him down but it was more a not yet, as I was in the middle of divorcing my 1st husband

We've been together 31 years, married 28

First time I met him and before we dated.

We was talking online and there was something about him he felt familiar and I knew him already first date it just felt right and I basically never went home. I lived at home at the time he had his own place so I wasn't giving a tenancy up or anything it's just naturally happened we got married two years after we met.
14 years next year and he is my best friend still.

I knew when he walked in the pub. I'd met a girl on my course, gone to the pub, and she said 'my friend from where I used to work is joining us' in he walks and everything changed. Got together officially a few months later and that was 17 years ago.

I'm also still very good friends with the girl on my course, just spoke to her yesterday!

First date.

I don’t know what it was about him, and I still don’t- 30 years on.

I just love him, and he is the person I want to be with until the end. Growing old with him is wonderful.

First sight for me. Nearly 20 years and 3 kids in and we're still as close as ever.

The moment we met at 22! It was like the earth shuddered and it feels as strong 16 years and two kids later.

Straight away, third date was a week long holiday, engaged three months later, married within the year and have been happily married for 30 years.

The first date. At least that was my hope. It worked out.

2nd
1st for him

We met in unusual circumstances related to our jobs (nothing dodgy!) which meant we could not go on a traditional first date. He had already told his mum he had met the woman he wanted to marry within days of us meeting. A lot of our early relationship was conducted via airmail and occasional phone calls. We had our 'official' first date about 4 months after we met and got engaged within about a month of that. Married at 2 years. Nearly 25 years later...