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BreezyPeachGoose · 2025-12-26T16:59:50+00:00

...they were the one? *(feel free to substitute "dates" for months or years)

3luckystars · 26/12/2025 21:56

I can’t say as I fall madly in love with everyone, I’m the same when I do the lottery I think I’m definitely going to win every time. With my husband, probably 5 seconds 😁

My friend though, her husband said he knew before he even met her. She had a cousin who lived near him, and she was always so kind to her cousin, he said he loved her before he met her.

Ipitnetpr5 · 26/12/2025 21:56

Well, in a way I had decided he was "the one" before I had even met him! Or fate had decided, maybe.

It was kind of a game that I was playing with myself in my head.

I was 16, feeling a bit lost and wondering how I could ever get any boys to be interested in me. Nobody ever seemed to like me. So, I was at a youth club, just sitting on a bench with two other girls. They were chatting, but not to me.
I was musing in my head, thinking I'll probably be single all my life.

Then I heard the outside door open and some voices in the hallway. I said to myself, ok the next guy who walks in through that door is the person I will marry.

In walks this geeky guy who I'd not seen before - and I chuckled to myself, thinking, phew thank god it's not for real!😂

However, guess what? I did marry him a few years later. Crazy I know, but I did. That was 50 years ago. Still married. Life is strange.

TheChosenTwo · 26/12/2025 22:01

Before we’d been out for dinner I was instantly so attracted to him. We flirted for a few weeks and then he invited me out for dinner after work. I was already smitten. Shortly after, I met his family and he said he was close to his sisters and their dc and often took on uncle duties and took them out for the day to give their parents a break. And would babysit them. I thought he’d make an excellent dad and he hasn’t disappointed me yet. 23 years down the line and 3dc of our own he’s always been a loyal devoted father and husband.
I am so close to my in-laws and they are a huge part of our lives. He comes from a really close and loving family and they opened their arms to me from the very beginning,
treating me as though I belonged in their family from day 1. Very grateful for the other side of my family and to mil for raising dh to be such a good man.

Gonnabefine · 26/12/2025 22:15

The end of date 2. I drove home in tears knowing that this was once in a lifetime special. Sadly he disagreed in the end. But I still feel it to this day 11 years later, and four after he ended it. I've not been able to move on and I don't think I ever will.

Christmaseree · 26/12/2025 22:19

Gonnabefine · 26/12/2025 22:15

The end of date 2. I drove home in tears knowing that this was once in a lifetime special. Sadly he disagreed in the end. But I still feel it to this day 11 years later, and four after he ended it. I've not been able to move on and I don't think I ever will.

Would you consider some counselling?

thisoldcity · 26/12/2025 22:19

We had our first date in my lunch hour from work, just a quick drink, and when I went back I said straight away to my friend 'I'm in love, I want to marry him!'

IndigoIsMyFavouriteColour · 26/12/2025 22:24

It took a year of friendship for us to get together. We knew pretty quickly after that point that we were in it for the long haul. I think it took a month for him to move in!

ILoveMyCaravan · 26/12/2025 22:24

First date, within minutes of walking into the pub with him. Together 27 years.

LoveRules · 26/12/2025 23:01

The first time we slept together 1 week after our first date. Engaged four months later and house buying within 9. Married earlier this year and living together with some of our blended family offspring. Agree it’s like having a sleepover with our best mate every day. We have been incredibly lucky to meet one another.

singswithitsfingers · 26/12/2025 23:05

I knew the first date that something important had happened.

PermanentTemporary · 26/12/2025 23:10

I don’t believe in ‘the one’ and I was a widow when I met dp, but the moment I laid eyes on him (video call) I knew something significant would happen between us. It wasn’t just about fancying him, although I did, I just felt he would be a meaningful person to me. I was even a bit reluctant because I was still playing around with a casual sex partner I’d caught feelings for, plus a couple of others.

Our first date a week later was wonderful. What struck me was I suddenly felt calm with him, in a way I hadn’t done for years. The calmness was again separate from fancying the pants off him, which I also did. That was five years ago, and we’re getting married.

Joystir59 · 26/12/2025 23:56

Before the first date. We volunteered on a project together, argued constantly but the spark was there. She texted me a question- " will you marry me?" And a wave of clear happiness washed through me. We went only went on one date. We were a couple after that and married a year later.

Ponderingwindow · 26/12/2025 23:59

About 60 seconds.

in fairness, it was round 2. We had dated and broken up purely for logistical reasons, but stayed friends. Many years later when we admitted we both still had feelings, that was pretty much it.

ActiveTiger · 27/12/2025 02:37

Talked on a Sunday where he worked clicked, went to his place on the Monday for tea and never left 28 days later we got married. We both knew and I was the first one he told his mum 2 days after the first talk that he had found someone he wanted to marry at last lol...that was 16 years ago and we now have teenagers and toddlers and still very very happy

trailblazer42 · 27/12/2025 04:17

With my STBX I was 18 (he was 24) and we were engaged after three weeks and bought a house within five months. Like a pp, I saw him with his nephew and thought I wanted to have a family with him. We were together 24yrs but actually I now know I was swept up in it all and long term it wasn’t right. A lot of counselling has got me to see the dynamic was always off.

I met my current partner seven months after leaving and it couldn’t be more different. After about six weeks chatting a lot and a few dates, we both realised this was something special. Circumstances are forcing us to take it slowly but six months in, I know he’s the one. I’m gutted I had settled for so long in a relationship I wasn’t happy in but feel properly happy for the first time in many years and we’ve both had a bit of a lightbulb moment that this is what all the fuss about love is all about!

ProseccoandPizza · 27/12/2025 08:22

Pretty much instantly. We’d had a few conversations online on a hook up site, met to do the ‘deed’ sexual chemistry was insane and we stayed awake the whole night talking, we told each other we loved each other within a week and are still in our little bubble 18 months later.

Moaningminnieagain · 27/12/2025 08:37

Well im no longer with my partner but at the time it felt effortless just speaking to him, like a best friend. When he made a move, I hesitated because I could feel it was going to snowball and wasn't sure i was ready. I consider him the love of my life but arent suited for other more practical reasons!

MrsZiggywinkle · 27/12/2025 08:43

Three

Blurted out that I loved him. Came totally from the heart and I still feel the same a couple decades later.

You don’t need to overthink things that are right for you.

ithinkilikethislittlelife · 27/12/2025 08:48

First date. I felt magnetised to him and had to be touching him somehow the whole date. We have been together over 15 years now, married and have two children together. Every day with him is incredible and I thank my lucky stars we met. He is awesome.

Lookingforwardto2025 · 27/12/2025 08:48

Second date. I remember getting home, sitting on the edge of my bed and thinking 'shit I am going to marry this man'. Just celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary ❤️

Nickisli1 · 27/12/2025 08:49

Wow, love this thread! I thought I knew after 3 months, and was definitely sure after 11 months. Sadly I was completely / scarily wrong and I am now a single parent with a tricky ex 😳. I would love to meet someone but I am really nervous about my decision making skills!!

LunarEclipser · 27/12/2025 09:12

After our first date, my cheeks ached from smiling and I realised I hadn’t smiled that much in years. My expectations were very low but I really, really enjoyed the couple of hours we spent together. I told him before the end of the date that I’d like to see him again. And every time I saw him after that, I had a great time and wanted to see him again. It’s only been a couple of years, and I still get butterflies. Plus, he’s recently supported me through the hardest time of my life. So from the first date I guess!

Didimum · 27/12/2025 09:24

Date 3 or 4 I ‘knew’ it was something that had legs. But I don’t believe in ‘the one’. I also think if you asked people while dating how many times they’d thought they’d found ‘the one’ but then were ghosted, you’d also find a fair few.

Mummybearsthename · 27/12/2025 09:38

Immediately. He told me he was falling in love with me on our first date, proposed 2 weeks later, moved in together at 3 months and married at 8 months. 21 years ago and I love him more than ever 💖

TaffetaPhrases · 27/12/2025 09:41

I was only three dates in when I told my mum if he asked me to
marry him, I’d do it. Three weeks later he suggested it….. a year later we were married with a baby on the way and are still very happy 18 years on. Hard old cynic that I was, it took everybody by surprise - it can happen!