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Red flags?

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ParapetCreeper · 26/12/2025 11:27

Which of these would put you off?

Man aged 40, good looking, great sex but...

Doesn't have his own place - rents a house with a flatmate, concerned about forthcoming rent increase.

Doesn't have a job - lives off savings but isn't affluent as he can't afford to live alone. Says he'll get a job when the money runs out.

Has a daughter aged 17 he has no contact with for past few years. Says it's due to the mum not being able to have him (they split when she was a baby) . He hasn't gone through court as he says the system is stacked against fathers and he'll probably lose. Also I'm unsure if he could afford it.

OP posts:
ResultsMayVary · 27/12/2025 20:20

ParapetCreeper · 27/12/2025 18:35

I would say I'm trauma bonded for a few reasons . One is because he was very judgy indeed about my sexual history, which is many more partners than his, and somewhat disgusting to him...especially because I lied about it to try to make it sound not as bad and he worked this out from questioning me forensically repeatedly. Also from the start he kept telling me about all the stuff other women had done wrong for him to ghost/block them, which kept me on edge.
I'm not sure when he last worked. In the past 1/2 years? He obviously saved enough to maintain his rent, petrol, dog food and groceries.
I asked him about child maintenance and if his daughter's mum had gone through the child support agency and he refused to answer.

Sounds like a redpill arsehole who is deciding if you have enough 'value'. Decent mature men aren't fixated on 'body count'

CalzoneOnLegs · 27/12/2025 20:20

He is full of shit. What an utter loser saying he’s a stud and can drive fast, thinking that is so talented and interesting

CalzoneOnLegs · 27/12/2025 20:21

‘Trauma bonded’ no he’s just a massive dick head

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 27/12/2025 20:26

ResultsMayVary · 27/12/2025 20:20

Sounds like a redpill arsehole who is deciding if you have enough 'value'. Decent mature men aren't fixated on 'body count'

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For anyone unsure what "redpill" is, see "MRA" as defined in my previous post.

The term is borrowed from The Matrix.

RavenFinch · 27/12/2025 21:40

CalzoneOnLegs · 27/12/2025 20:20

He is full of shit. What an utter loser saying he’s a stud and can drive fast, thinking that is so talented and interesting

Yep. And in doing so - telling the OP his skills are being able to drive fast and sex stud he is actually proving he does have some skills and could get a job quite easily:

● Uber driver
● Evri courier driver
● Local pizza delivery for local pizza and kebab shop

● Gigolo
● Sex Therapist
● Masseur for mature ladies
● Porn star

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