Done being single

[ReadyForNewYear]

I’m done being single, in the new year I really want to concentrate on finding someone. What are the best apps to use and any advice? Also which to avoid.

I don’t think he meant that - why else would he want your number?! I think you have misread what he meant to be honest

To be honest.....I think that he has had a lucky escape!

Think it’s the other way round

Met my partner on Tinder in 2024. I've had a lot of experience of OLD so knew how to use it and how not to. At 41, I also knew myself well and stuck to my boundaries.

I was single nearly 4 years. I had just taken a break of almost a year from OLD, as I became jaded by the same old rubbish situations. But I always maintained that if there are normal women on there then there must be normal men. I also deliberately didn't date at times I was unhappy alone.

He is wonderful and I am so glad I stuck with the OLD. Everyone has different experiences. I've had some wild ones. You have to be prepared to overlook some faults and realise we can allow semantics to get in the way because we've become conditioned to think that it must be perfect or is not worth it. Burnt Haystack is great and I followed it, but I truly believe that method means perfectly good men end up overlooked because they've said a few words wrong and it's been read into the wrong way. I did that with my partner, and only when we met did I realise I'd got that bit wrong.

Just have fun and meet lots of people. Get to know what you do and don't want from it.

This is right. OLD became mainstream in lockdowns in 2020/21. Since then, it's become more synonymous with hook up culture. In the 10 year gap between me first using it in 2013 and then going back on in 2023, there had been a significant shift. However, in 2013 there were still plenty of ghosts and sex pests.

No, I think qaz1qaz got it right first time.

Think what you like I know I had a lucky escape, I’ve had enough experiences to know what sort of man he is, you don’t know me so don’t comment anymore .

Every single person who commented has told you that you misunderstood his comment and yet you persist in saying you are right. People can comment on that if they want to. You have communication issues.

I don’t care what other people think, it’s what I believe that matters and I know what type of man he is, these people commenting wouldn’t say all these nasty things to my face, they have to hide behind a computer whatever, I would love to meet you all, so if that’s the case how do I have communication issues?

I would definitely tell you to your face that I don’t believe that is what he meant and that you’d misunderstood. If you know what type of man he is I assume there was red flags in the previous longer messages which you hadn’t mentioned on here so the short comment wasn’t actually the reason you stopped speaking to him?