Done being single

[ReadyForNewYear]

I’m done being single, in the new year I really want to concentrate on finding someone. What are the best apps to use and any advice? Also which to avoid.

Good luck OP! I met DH on POF although it was 15 years ago

Lots meeting their husbands on POF! Im going to give it a go i have nothing to lose! Thanks

Theres a group on facebook called The Adventure Singles. Its lots of group events for single people to meet up in real life

So?

Exactly 😂

What’s the issue?

I agree with a pp that perseverance is key. You have to be willing to communicate with a lot of people and be happy to leave all of them and carry on. Don’t compromise. This is how I met my dh.

So what?

Good

Apparently a man messaging me my conversation is shit, is absolutely fine, now I know where I’m going wrong!

Two of my friends daughters met their husbands on hinge, DS met his very lovely GF on there as well. They are all under 30.

Yep. Over a 2 year period, I had countless messaging back and forth, lots of polite coffee dates that went nowhere and a handful of pleasant enough flings. It took me over 50 dates to meet my current partner of 9 years, so you have to stick with it, even if it means you take breaks for dating fatigue!

My attitude was to organise a meet up early on, no back and forth chatting. Just a coffee or one drink. And use that first meet up to decide whether I wanted to go on an actual date with that person. It took all the pressure off and no meet was a waste because I very much thought of them as “I’m going out for a coffee and that’s it.” Any further contact was a bonus. No further contact was absolutely fine.

I treated it as a fun project. All the apps do is give you access to other people looking for people.

Sometimes I wanted a date and the other person said no. I took great comfort in the thought that there are billions of people in the world and, statistically, two people both liking each other is tiny! So it wasn’t a slight on me if I wasn’t for them. Just maths 😁

Have fun with it and good luck!

He didn't. He said the sites are shit. Are you sure you're okay?

All I want to say Ready, is that I hope you are successful in your 2026 quest to find love. Wishing you luck, have at it!

Met my husband on match.com. Had a few dates with other people prior to meeting him. The best one is the one you meet your the keeper on!

He was clearly wanting to continue the conversation but off the site. Think you’ve misread this one 😅

He wanted to take you off the app and to talk to you personally through his number and you didn’t respond. I’d of took his number and messaged him to get off the app.

I agree. I think it’s a misinterpretation and an overreaction.

I’ve told men before the apps are shit then usually joked ‘present company excepted’

They are shit it’s a fact. I would have taken his comment that he wants to chat off app, not as a personal slight

Yes thanks you?

pinenuts75

I don’t think he meant meeting you was shit or that he was still actively looking and couldn’t find anyone, I think he probably meant it was a shit site/ old is shit or it had glitched or something!!

We were messaging quite a lot in his last message all he wrote was this site is shit, I can’t believe all the women who think this is ok, they must have very low standards in a man, I’ve set mine much higher now, sick of falling for idiots.

pinenuts75

I think we all just took a different meaning to you?

Someone called me a lady of colour on POF.😠 Pissed off.

It’s ok because it’s highly likely he just want to continue the long messages elsewhere, no low bars to assume that. I’ve said the same myself. The sites are shit and the messaging platforms are basic and clunky. Far better to continue on WhatsApp or similar