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do you wear a wedding ring if you are married?

144 replies

SlartyBartFast · 09/06/2008 22:47

does your spouse?

why/why not

i do, but dh lost his in the sea, i wonder sometimes why i do and should i not just to prove a point!

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Goober · 10/06/2008 08:30

We both do, although mine is a newish one as I am now allergic to yellow gold, had a white gold one made and had it blessed.

lulumama · 10/06/2008 08:32

yes, although DH did not wear his for a year as he put weight on and it was too tight. lost weight and he wears it. although i did encourage him to wear a ring on his wedding finger. it is a sign of our commitment to each other, and that neither of us are available. the only time i have not worn mine is when i have had surgery. so only twice in almost 10 years.

i like it,i like knowing when and how it was given, i still have the same one, although if i wear my eternity ring, i have to wear my wedding ring on my right hand.

cmotdibbler · 10/06/2008 08:44

Dh and I both wear a ring. I don't wear my engagement ring all the time though.

I think I just see it as a sign of nonavailability - important for me as I travel a lot, and it supresses the unwelcome approaches a bit

Chocolateteapot · 10/06/2008 08:44

No, another who is allergic to my ring. I deliberately got platinum as I thought there would be less chance I would react, it was fine for ages but isn't now.

Karathraceandherspecialdestiny · 10/06/2008 08:53

I wear a silver ring on my 'wedding finger' that dp gave to me even though we aren't married and probably never will be. I wear it as a sign of non-availability and have noticed it generally tends to work (or I have got less attractive over the years...). Do other people think that is weird? I'm not pretending to be married as have never felt the need to be and always refer to dp as my 'partner'.

Bridie3 · 10/06/2008 08:55

My husband doesn't wear a ring--it wasn't the done thing for him. I wear mine.

MrsTittleMouse · 10/06/2008 09:00

We both wear ours. I like it partly because we don't have the same name, so it's the only obvious way to tell that we're married, but mostly because whenever I look at my/his hand, it reminds me of our wedding ceremony, which was a very happy experience.

Chequers · 10/06/2008 09:05

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Goober · 10/06/2008 09:33

Not weird to wear a ring when not married. You a have a commitment, that's why you wear it.

I tried platinum when my white gold band was being made (the jeweller is a friend of ours and he dipped my old band in platinum as an experiment) it also had a reaction. As yet there is none with white gold (5 years).

daftpunk · 10/06/2008 09:35

neither of us do.

TheFallenMadonna · 10/06/2008 09:40

According to the etiquette fella in the Times, men wearing wedding rings is a bit continental and Catholic. English men are traditionally only adorned by signet rings apparently...

DH wears one unless he is machining. His parents were rather about it.

I wear mine. Usually only the wedding ring, not engagement or eternity rings.

CatIsSleepy · 10/06/2008 09:40

dh wears his
i used to wear mine but got fed up of getting eczema-type itchy patches on that finger
am not really a ring person anyway
managed to lose my first one in the sea on holiday so on balance it's probably safer not to wear this one!

hannahsaunt · 10/06/2008 09:45

We both wear one - it's not fundamental but I do like it. Our lovely jeweller said that he would make mine just slightly bigger than the size I measured so that I wouldn't have to take it off should I ever be pg; he did this with a lovely twinkle in his eye. And he was right .

NomDePlume · 10/06/2008 09:46

We both wear ours although I do take mine off regularly to apply moisturisers, DD's creams (she has eczema), working in the garden or doing messy cooking etc and I quite often forget to put it back on for a day or so.

DH never takes his off regardless of what he is doing.

kiddiz · 10/06/2008 09:55

Dh never had one because of his job and h&s. I stopped wearing mine many years ago because my skin underneath it kept going yukky! I'm not really a jewellery type either. We've just had our 21st anniversary

NomDePlume · 10/06/2008 09:57

Forgot to say that we have been married for 5yrs

FluffyMummy123 · 10/06/2008 09:58

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FluffyMummy123 · 10/06/2008 09:59

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ghosty · 10/06/2008 10:01

LOL @ cod ...
I'd love to see you tell my dad he is 'naff and chavvy'
What an odd thing to say

eidsvold · 10/06/2008 10:02

yes both of us do. When dh's got too big - we got another one for him. I also wear my engagement and eternity ring. Never really take them off.

stirlingmum · 10/06/2008 10:02

After 15 yrs of never removing it I took off wedding ring when found out about h's affair - dont know whether it will go back on - H still wears his though.

stitch · 10/06/2008 10:03

i wear one . now its just habit. not used to my hand ithoutht the ring. and finger looks rather dodgey with the shite circle of flesh there.
but there are certain instances where i have been glad i was wearing one.

stitch · 10/06/2008 10:03

oo, i got chatted up despite wearing the ring!

GentleOtter · 10/06/2008 10:04

Yes, I wear my wedding ring. DH works with whirling machinery so only wears his on our ANNUAL night out.

MrsBoo · 10/06/2008 10:04

I don't wear mine - it got too small when pregnant with DS (9 years ago) and I never got around to putting it back on. I don't have an engagement ring, as I dont really like the thought of them.
My DH never wears his ring, it was a cheap one bought just for the service. We are married nearly 12 years.