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do you wear a wedding ring if you are married?

144 replies

SlartyBartFast · 09/06/2008 22:47

does your spouse?

why/why not

i do, but dh lost his in the sea, i wonder sometimes why i do and should i not just to prove a point!

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SquiffyHock · 09/06/2008 23:17

We both do even though DH thought he wouldn't. It sounds silly but I still notice DH's wedding ring and I love it.

BTW, if he really wanted to, a priest would have no problem blessing another ring.

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SlartyBartFast · 09/06/2008 23:18

thanks squiffy, will tell dh that

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ghosty · 09/06/2008 23:33

We both do. Like others here we see it as are outward symbol of our commitment to eachother.
Two of my friends have the same principles as Mazzystar (traditional symbolism of being seen to be someone's goods/chattels) and we had heated discussions about it as we all got engaged/married around the same time. Neither of them changed their names either (for exactly same reasons Mazzystar says) ...
Each to their own I guess (the heated discussions were mainly on their part telling me I was letting the feminist movement down by wearing a ring and changing my name - lol )
One thing I never understood however: One of these friends of mine berated me for spending 300 quid on a wedding ring that was a "traditional symbol of being seen to be one's goods/chattels" yet she spent 2000 pounds on a wedding dress. I bought a cheap off the peg dress because I saw more value in spending money on my wedding ring than on a dress I was only going to wear for one day.
Does that make sense?

Barnical · 09/06/2008 23:34

yes for both of us

mazzystar · 09/06/2008 23:41

Ghosty was it a full length white virginal number then? [hers I mean] I didn't do any of that either so at least I am consistent.

bobblehat · 09/06/2008 23:42

I wear one and so does dh. He wasn't going to get one, but when I got mine there was one he liked in the shop that was half price. He couldn't resist a bargain - how romantic!!!

Both are very plain gold bands. After being married 8 years it still makes me smile when I look at it.

cali · 09/06/2008 23:44

We both wear rings, though there have been times that dh has been unable to wear his because of work. I wear engagement ring most of the time unless I'm at work.

Still waiting for my eternity ring as dh got off very lightly with engagement ring. He proposed in Prague and we chose the ring there but because of the currency at the time, there were so many zeros in the price tag, we thought the ring was very expensive. We were wrong!

must go and search on the internet....

Sazisi · 09/06/2008 23:50

We both wear ours. DH didn't think he'd be able to get used to it (he didn't wear and didn't like the idea of wearing any kind of jewelry before we married) but he grew to like wearing his. I was thrilled
I'm very attached to my ring.. I had to remove it while I was pregnant and felt like something was missing.
It's not a symbol of ownership , but a symbol of our love and commitment

unknownrebelbang · 10/06/2008 00:01

DH does.

I don't anymore, although I do have a rather fetching scar around my ring finger instead.

ghosty · 10/06/2008 00:22

Yes, mazzy - full on white virginal number complete with train and fur 'shrug' from a top london store ...
you are consistent and I think everyone should stick to their principles (whatever they are) and be consistent like you

purpleduck · 10/06/2008 00:29

DH wears his
I don't wear mine. I like my ring (just a plain gold band) but I don't really like jewellry, and I HATE the feeling of fingers swelled around ring/ stuff under my ring.

I totally "get" that it is the symbol of our committment, etc, but it is just that - a symbol - not the real thing.

expatinscotland · 10/06/2008 00:31

we both do.

i'd be upset if he didn't.

AlienSwampMonster · 10/06/2008 00:34

We did mean to have some made specially - maybe for our first anniversary - and the money we would have spent went towards the honeymoon of a lifetime. Eight years later... [drums ringless finger]... Am I bovvered? Just still blissfully happy with the man I have loved for almost 20 years now. And we both forgot our first anniversary. And subsequent ones. Only the cards from the inlaw remind us .

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jamila169 · 10/06/2008 00:41

we both do,though for the wedding day,DH had to borrow SIL's first one (she had to have a new one ,it was too loose) as He'd not seen anything he really liked - after a couple of months he saw a vintage one in a jewellers and had that, mine is my mum's that she had to have cut off because of arthritis ,we had it repaired and sized because it is lovely!(probably has good karma as well as my parents were together for 31 years)

Minum · 10/06/2008 06:45

No, neither of us wear one. Mine broke, and I've never got round to getting it repaired - I dont like wearing anything on my hands, as it irritates me (can't bear to wear a watch).

I'm not that comfortable with the symbolism either, its hard to explain why, as I'm very happy to be married.

WideWebWitch · 10/06/2008 07:45

we both do

Sexonlegs · 10/06/2008 07:50

Me and dh both do.

Dh said he wouldn't wear one, so I bought him a fairly cheap one for the ceremony.

He never took it off, until it got bent on a climbing trip. He now has a new more expensive/better quality one!

NatalieJaneIsPregnantAgain · 10/06/2008 08:11

I do (Hah!), DH doesn't, because it get's in the way at work, not sure he even knows where it is.

I used to wear my engagement ring all of the time, until I suddenly started getting a reaction to it.

scorpio1 · 10/06/2008 08:13

i do.

dh doesn't in the week because of work. he forgets most weekends too....it hurts him though his webbed bits are really high in between his fingers iyswim.

WelliesAndPyjamas · 10/06/2008 08:14

I do but DH lost his whilst gardening last year. One of these days we'll get round to buying him another one.

Sanctuary · 10/06/2008 08:24

Dh wears one and up till recently I could`nt as it burnt if I wore it for a long period of time.Eventually after 9 years of marriage went to the jewellers and got it sorted

ProfYaffle · 10/06/2008 08:26

Generally no. I accidentally gave dh's away (long story) and I find mine irritating. I only wear it on special occasions or if I feel the need to 'prove' we're married, eg when dh is in hospital and I'm anxious they don't question me as next of kin.

GooseyLoosey · 10/06/2008 08:26

I don't - was a bit too small when we were married (vanity kicked in a bit) and is a bit smaller now - it has somehow shrunk . Dh did and then took the hump as I wasn't wearing mine. When I explained why and we generally did some polishing up of our marriage, his went back on again. Sadly, mine remains shrunk!