********Is he really that into me?*********

[FeelsSoRightYet]

Am a regular but have namechanged for this.
I met a guy less than two weeks ago, we've met each other and been intimate three times since then. The last time was Fri/Sat at a party. We spent all of Sat making very passionate music.

Thing is I've been badly hurt in the past and so in the last few years have played it very safe, dump them before they dump you or don't get serious. Anyway the thing is this man has knocked me sideways.

We have both said that we are a bit overwhelmed by the intensity of our feelings for each other so soon. It's his birthday today and after sending him a txt, I got a very short as in "Thanks, kisses I'm getting old"

I sent one back saying "If your old I'm prehistoric" Anyway thing is I've had no reply. I haven't verbally spoken to him since Sat. I feel like a load of bloody demons are sitting on my shoulder.

I want to ring him and chat and yet I don't want him to think I'm hounding him and yet I'm thinking if he's that into me, wouldn't he have wanted to speak to me by now?

I'm so annoyed with myself tbh because this is the behaviour of a teenager and I'm a grown woman fgs! Arghhhhhhhhhhhh please if someone could shed some objective light on this I'd be very greatful.

well it is his birthday today and unless he is odd he is probably celebrating and as you have only known him for a couple of weeks he probably didn't want to invite you. So i would say chill. If he hasn't called/texted in a couple of days well then, it was casual sex, so enjoy it for what it was.

it is horribly isnt it....

maybe you could text him and ask him how he enjoyed his bday?

i have been texting a bloke for 4 weeks and i really like him already, we meet very soon... and i am dreading all the waiting for call rubbish.....

I have been single for 3 years... i really want to meet someone and dream of some hanky panky... but it is the rest of the stuff i hate

Call him, wish him happy birthday, lifes to short and you may get a friend if not a partner out of all this

CALL HIM

ime men don't feel the need to respond to every text you send them. They just don't do chitty chatty. My friend used to beat herself up over a chap who would text, she would reply, then he didn't respond back. He just didn't see the need to!
I wouldn't worry about it for today, he may be out this evening, be working late, anything. Men don't just ring up for a chat, he might ring towards the weekend to arrange to see you, or if I were you I'd give him a call say Thursday to see if he wants to meet up.
As one who also used to do the dump first thing and not get serious, when I met dp we just clicked so well that all my demons went out the window
The best piece of advice I ever had is from a very happily married chum who said, 'you know when you have met the right person, because you both just click, with no emotional effort whatsoever'. Good luck!

I was at his party on Fri though and he has said he will see me during the week but I just feel like so blood angry with myself for walking on eggshells re will I call him txt him etc. I mean ifI wsn't that into him I wouldt really care. Grrrrrrr

I'm tempted to call him. Shit shit shit

i would leave it till thurs

What about a goodnight txt?

sleep on it tonight and see how you feel tomorrow......

no he will be pissed

you answered him..i would leave it

i have these issues all the time with bf i have concluded like someone said men dont do emails and texts unless there is a point on the whole

if you send him another and he doesnt answer you will feel worse guaranteed

why have yopu changed your name anyway

you want to feel he has contacted you because he wants to- not out of obligation to reply- leave it a day or two at least.

Ok, am going to leave it. Play it cool, although I'm far from it lol. Thank's guys, jeez why didnt I post this thread hours ago and save myself this emotional shite?
You lot will be the first to know if it takes off.

I don't know zippi.

well change it back i want to know who you are

this isnt enbarrassing is it

TBH you sound a bit intense after a short time and this has been known to freak blokes out
I never advocate playing games but my advice would be to back off considerably, if he doesn't call you, it means he wasn't right for you.

i am the uncoolestr [person and even i would wait

If he has said he will see you during the week then what are you worrying about!
He probably means to see you Wed or Thurs and in bloke speak that means he'll ring or text you Wednesday or Thursday afternoon and expect you to be free.
When we first got together, dp and I could only see each other at weekends. He would come to stay at mine. Every sunday night he'd go home saying 'I'll ring you' (neither of us had mobiles then) and every Monday Tuesday and Wednesday I'd tie myself in knots WHY HASN'T HE RUNG till I realise he rang me on a Wed late evening. Then I tied myself in knots over WHY IS HE RINGING FROM A PHONE BOX WHAT HAS HE GOT TO HIDE (I'm putting in caps to illustrate how frustrated it used to get me!).... he rang from a phone box on his night out with his mate, cos at the time he lived at home and his mum used to a) listen to his conversations and b) go on about the phone bill and my number was a long distance one from them.
THe point I am trying to make is that we clicked perfectly, he is wonderful and he knew from meeting me that I was Mrs Right. But I still used to get wound up analysing every bloody movement and fart that he did!

Ok, it's me, don't ask me why I namechanged, I feel like a t*at now. Maybe I thought replys would be more objective if I was annon?

Well now that you know that, I can reveal a bit more. He's Italian, nearly ten years younger. Well the first few txts have been ful of bella and belisima and bacio and tonight it's just ruddy feckin kiss.

Ok. I'm reading oo much into this butI have ben so bloody hurt in the past. I haven't fallen for someone for over 9 years!

Excuse all the typos my ds spilt juice on the keys arlier.

well it is early days

didntknow it was you obvs...sorry for making you say but realy it is a pretty harmles post

i am not good at dating advice

ten years is fine i wouldnt worry about that

arent you about 40

but iw ould give him a bit of space and then if he asks you out you can feelma bit reassured

if he doesnt he isnt sintersted

and hi havent spoken to you for ages i think

Your right zippi and yes I am 40 although tbh Ifeel about 14 atm. I think I need to calm right down! He is fckin gorgeous though!

I'm going through a big lurk and post infrequently phase, so it's quite possible that we haven't spoken for a bit.