Husband and girl at the gym

[EmilyBabe]

I wondered if I could have some opinions / advice please.

So basically my husband has this woman ( friend ) at the gym that he gets on with. They always chat, she asks for his advice all the time about workouts etc. I personally feel they’ve got too close as I feel she flirts with him a lot when he tells me about some of their conversations etc. She parks right next to his car ( its a big car park ), and constantly moans about her boyfriend to him, and talks about their problems.

Anyway, 1 day last week my husband couldn’t make the gym, but his training partner was there, and was chatting to this woman. He basically asked her what was going on, and they ( Her and my Husband ) seemed a bit close and whether she liked him or not. She basically turned her nose up, and said a few nasty things about him, basically saying she didn’t find him attractive and how he can be a bit creepy / pervy always chatting with her etc. ( He told my husband all this after )

I thought this was obviously very mean, especially if they’re friends. And doesn’t make a lot of sense considering how flirty she is with him. I’m just wondering what her game is?

My husbands friend has said to me a couple of times how flirty she is with him and how even her boyfriend apparently calls my husband her ‘gym boyfriend’. It just doesn’t add up. My husband says 9/10 she will approach him ( not the other way round ), to ask about gym workouts, or to just offload about her boyfriend.

In 1 way I’m kind of happy if she doesn’t fancy him, but at the same time I feel
a bit sorry for my husband as he had always spoke quite highly of her before. This woman is a lot younger than him, so I’m just wondering is she just using him to get advice and offloading to him about her boyfriend because she has no one else.

My husband was quite hurt by the comments and feels awkward now when he sees her.

Where are you getting your information ? Is your husband telling you all of this? Is he saying shes flirting with him and then telling his friend she finds him creepy?

Why, why, WHY do men think that every time a woman is nice to them they’re flirting?

Who even decided she was flirting? Another man?

Your husband needs to give this woman some space. She thinks he’s pervy and creepy. He needs to back off.

Someone is fibbing. But who....

All very weird

very weird
even for mumsnet
and you feel sorry for your husband?

My husband basically tells me who’s he’s seen at the gym, what conversations he’s had etc. The majority of them are men but there’s 1 or 2 woman he speaks to. I’ve basically told him I found quite a lot of the conversations flirty, and that he needs to pull back a bit with her because I wasn’t comfortable with it.

Op, you sound quite terrifying

When she talks to my husband about sex it’s not really something I’m comfortable with tbh.

As I say, you sound terrifying

It reads as a classical dick move by the friend who fancies the woman but she isn’t interested in him so he is stirring g it up to get the woman and your husband to fall out as he’s jealous.

What an odd comment. Is that something you’d be happy with your husband chatting to other woman about?

The scenario you outline in your Op is so very far from the realms of something I have ever encountered in my marriage. Thankfully. Him, her, you, the friend.

This! My husband said he always told him to ignore her because he thought she was trouble. Then all of a sudden months later the friend started talking to her loads, more than my Husband.

Why did your husbands' 'training partner' feel the need to question this woman in that way?

Would be a normal thing to do if they were say, 12 years of age.

Are you saying you feel sorry for your husband because the girl he has been flirting with isn't interested in him?

this is extremely strange.

I get the feeling your husband is behaving like a creep and making this woman feel uncomfortable.

She is the 1 that keeps approaching him for conversation though. It doesn’t make sense.

I agree, it all seems very strange. Yesterday she was asking him to record her for her workouts etc to put on socials. All seems very odd if she thinks he’s ‘creepy’.

It’s kind of weird that your DH is sad that the girl at the gym doesn’t fancy him.

Doesn’t he have a wife?

Sorry, so you have said to your husband that you think their conversations were too flirty and his response was to just... carry on? Have I missed something?

She's saying she doesn't fancy your DH because she realised people were starting to notice and she wants to put them off the scent. It wasn't meant to get back to him.

The friend fancies her and was scoping her out for a potential shag.
She may or may not have said those things about your DH, its impossible to know for certain, I imagine the truth is somewhere in the middle, and the friend is just trying to make your DH back off a bit so he can become the gym buddy.
Men have done for more desperate things for a shag before.
Either way, its all a bit weird and childlike.

He’s only recently told me this, because he was trying to prove a point that if he was ‘creepy or pervy’, why would she be talking to him about this, or saying this and that.

Why so?

Difficult to understand why you care or know exactly what goes on at your husband's gym sessions.

The only question you should be asking yourself is do trust your husband?

I think he’s sad that someone who chats to him is telling someone he he is creepy and pervy. I think most people would feel pretty bad about this. Especially when the person saying it is the one doing all the approaching and talking about sex and problems with her boyfriend.

Why would a woman who thinks a man is creepy and pervy keep approaching him and asking for gym tips. And why why WHY would she talk about the problems with her boyfriend and sex?

you might think this is normal behaviour but I personally think it is VERY weird to do if I found a man creepy and pervy. No?