Husband and girl at the gym

[EmilyBabe]

I wondered if I could have some opinions / advice please.

So basically my husband has this woman ( friend ) at the gym that he gets on with. They always chat, she asks for his advice all the time about workouts etc. I personally feel they’ve got too close as I feel she flirts with him a lot when he tells me about some of their conversations etc. She parks right next to his car ( its a big car park ), and constantly moans about her boyfriend to him, and talks about their problems.

Anyway, 1 day last week my husband couldn’t make the gym, but his training partner was there, and was chatting to this woman. He basically asked her what was going on, and they ( Her and my Husband ) seemed a bit close and whether she liked him or not. She basically turned her nose up, and said a few nasty things about him, basically saying she didn’t find him attractive and how he can be a bit creepy / pervy always chatting with her etc. ( He told my husband all this after )

I thought this was obviously very mean, especially if they’re friends. And doesn’t make a lot of sense considering how flirty she is with him. I’m just wondering what her game is?

My husbands friend has said to me a couple of times how flirty she is with him and how even her boyfriend apparently calls my husband her ‘gym boyfriend’. It just doesn’t add up. My husband says 9/10 she will approach him ( not the other way round ), to ask about gym workouts, or to just offload about her boyfriend.

In 1 way I’m kind of happy if she doesn’t fancy him, but at the same time I feel
a bit sorry for my husband as he had always spoke quite highly of her before. This woman is a lot younger than him, so I’m just wondering is she just using him to get advice and offloading to him about her boyfriend because she has no one else.

My husband was quite hurt by the comments and feels awkward now when he sees her.

If it was me I’d go with him and see what she does then, she clearly wants attention from wherever she can get it, or I’d be telling him to tell her he’s busy training.

I was thinking the same

We’re late 30’s, she’s maybe mid to late 20’s

It sounds like she is flirting with both of them and playing off one against the other, but then it could all be made up or amplified coming from either your DH or his mate.

OP, I can't really work out how you know all these in-depths details and nuances of conversations you weren't there for (and involving people you don't know). Why are your husband and his friend relaying all of this he-said-she-said back to you?

Do any of the people involved actually get any training done?

These gym posts are all very similar??????

Your husband is lying to you and is flirting with the girl.

They also write one as 1 in both threads

1 day
1 of them

I spotted that also

It`s all abit he said she said school ground drama.

Stop being obtuse

Anyway, 1 day last week my husband couldn’t make the gym, but his training partner was there, and was chatting to this woman. He basically asked her what was going on, and they ( Her and my Husband ) seemed a bit close and whether she liked him or not. She basically turned her nose up, and said a few nasty things about him, basically saying she didn’t find him attractive and how he can be a bit creepy / pervy always chatting with her etc. ( He told my husband all this after )

^ women can tell when someone is attracted to them you know. Maybe she was talking to him as a mate but he was overstepping? Hence why she thinks he’s creepy.

She told him they barely do it anymore and she’s just ‘had to get used to it now’. How she has a high sex drive, and even mentioned an outfit she dressed up in the other day and that her boyfriend wasn’t interested….

But why does discussing her own relationship issues automatically mean she must fancy your husband? Where is the logic? I tell my friends about my sex life, it doesn’t mean I want to secretly have sex with those friends. The fact she’s very loudly and obviously signalling that she’s taken, in a relationship and actively dating someone else, suggests she isn’t into your husband imo

This. I know i'm bumping an old thread, but 100% this.

Are you being serious ??? Stop trolling!

You only have your husband’s word for this - if it didn’t mean anything why mention it ? My DH goes the gym and doesn’t tell me who he talks to if anyone ?!