So I came out of a LTR 10 years ago and have been on quite a few dates since via online dating. A few guys have liked me but they have been, shall we say mostly odd/weird 🤣 and the ones that I've liked (don't hate me for saying it, but the "normal" ones) invariably haven't liked me. I am wondering if it's because I have scars on my face, which you can't really see in my online dating photos. They were caused by a minor congenital defect which I often don't feel comfortable talking about, as people generally make silly comments that can be quite insulting - obviously unintentionally - but it still hurts. The problem is, whenever I date I always worry that the scars will be an issue and I have no idea whether I should 'warn' a potential date before they meet me in case it is a shock. WWYD? Weirdly I have never discussed my scars with any past boyfriends, and I have loved that as it helped me avoid awkward conversations and really, the scars are not a major part of who I am. But there have been some dates that I have gone on where my date has looked shocked/almost insulted (despite getting on with me so well beforehand) and hasn't wanted to see me again. Although I know there could be many reasons for this, I also know that people can be very prejudiced and it's happened enough for me to think that the scars could be an issue.
So WWYD? Tell them beforehand and possibly lose the chance of a date as it sounds scary, or say nothing and hope they can see past them? FWIW, I am generally very confident, just not in talking about my obvious flaws.
And PS don't hate me for using the word "normal" - I know this is an awful word and there is someone for everyone etc, but some of these guys really have been very strange/weird, at least to me.