I really have messed up

[Sweetielou]

My husband passed away 29 months ago , im just about getting my head together and started seeing a guy in August, it a guy I know and had dated over 30 years ago . Everything was going ok but he was a bit intense and talked about our future a lot , we booked a holiday for next year but all was happening to soon. Stupidly instead of talking to him about it I sent him a message and ended it (completely out of order i know). I said i still missed my husband and wasn't sure that im ready .
He messaged me back good luck and good bye .. a few days after his mum passed away so I called him to say sorry about your mum which he replied its none of your concern and put the phone down on me ( completely what i deserve).
He has now blocked me on facebook but not on WhatsApp so I respect his boundaries and have not contacted him .
I miss him a lot and im so angry with myself for ending things the way I did 🥲

Just ask him for your key back.

I have asked him to drop it back , he said it was just an excuse to contact him 🙄

He really thinks a lot of himself doesn't he.

Doesn't he just !!!

You’re being a bit wet now. He’s a man, he’s probably shagging someone else by now. How many more times do you need to get hurt by him?

Im a widow I don’t go after other men like this. There’s enough pain in jy life I don’t need to add extra.

Most mature adults would just thank the person for their condolences. I mean no doubt he would be moaning and complaining if the op had not reached out. He sounds like an immature twat.

I would get the locks change and sadly give up the idea of getting the key ring back.
I am not sure if you are listening to any advice. This man has ranted at you about second chances and called you lucky?!!!!
He is someone you have known for a long time and thinks it’s okay to talk to you like this.
Stop apologising.
If you keep going back you will be on here in a few months on the floor, no self respect left, in tatters.
The next part is on you now.
You know he’s a bad apple, he doesn’t care about you, he may have fancied a hook up and he’s changed his mind.

Firstly I dont go after men , hes the first and the only man I have had any contact with since my husband passed away in July 23 , but yeah he probably is seeing other people so maybe I have made myself look a bit wet

That’s such a short time in terms of grief.