Cockrings - dodgy?

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been with bf 2 few years , don’t live together . On 2 occasions he has accidentally pulled a cockring out of his pocket, I will attach pics. First the black and most recently the pink one , these are stock photos as close as I can get to what they looked like.

the black one I didn’t say anything just let it go , presumed he uses them for masturbation . He never uses one with me .

but the pink one I questioned. He got defensive and said he was going to use it with me and changed his mind and put it in his pocket (he was not wearing his hoodie while we were having sex) I wasn’t angry or anything and was calm when I asked him but he accused me of gaslighting him (???) he was then in a mood for the rest of the day .

so I’m not sure what to think . It’s more his reaction than anything else . In the past I’ve also found used condoms to which he claimed ‘posh wank’

No, they are not.

Why?????

Doesn’t like semen apparently 😂

🙄🙄🙄

In my world, anyone talking about cock rings in any sense other than the piss take is to be utterly avoided. They fall into the same category as butt plugs (ie they're objects to make jokes about). A guy actually owning one would just be ick beyond compare.

It’s all rather grim…

Up your game OP.
Dump him.

Update : rightly or wrongly I snooped in his bedside drawer. These drawers (his house in fact) were purchased after we met . Found other things he hasn’t used with me :
anal lube applicators (used)
bondage tape (used)
nipple clamp (still in packet)
spanking paddle (can’t tell if it’s been used)
more cockrings
more condoms
enough lube to sink a battle ship

won’t be seeing him again . He still protests innocence against all the evidence .

He's gay or bi.

• the obvious get checked. Hope all turns out ok for you.👍

Definitely get STI check.

I will

Just to help sustain the erection, If he needs it so what. It can become dangerous if used too much.

Oh wow, I have to say I’d end it if my husband dropped a cock ring out of his pocket! But twice! How often does he have one in his pocket for them to fall out twice?! Something doesn’t add up. Especially him saying your gaslighting him…

Sounds like it's much more than a bit of erection help!

What the hell is bondage tape?

Good job you snooped! I hope you’re OK.

I think I’ll revise my previous post. Cock rings are still used in heterosexual relationships.
That’s not what’s happening here. Sorry OP. Agree you need to get tested and block him.

I’m disappointed
ironically it was another woman I’ve always had niggling suspicion about.
his much older female ‘best friend’ he was over enmeshed with and was reluctant for me to meet.
someone did tell me it might be some sort of dom and sub situation he has with her . There’s a whole essay I could write on her. Either way, it’s too much weird too soon . I’m just glad I didn’t commit any further as he was all for marriage and moving in together .

He is blocked

Wanking into a condom is a lie. Condoms are designed to be flush to the penis and not move, so it doesn’t make any sense. And why is he producing random sex aids from his ‘hoodie’ like a v v low budget Paul Daniels? In the bin with the trash.

Tape to tie someone up with . I knew what it was when I saw it tbh but still googled it for my own sanity .
I have a photo of it but I won’t post it as you can’t really tell from it but the edge is jagged . One corner is curled up . It’s neon pink and was slippery with lube
when I questioned this he lost his shit with me. Properly kicked off.
told me yes he had taken it out of the packet ( I didn’t know if they come in packets or not) but that he didn’t use it . It has lube on it as he spilled it when he was having a wank . ( oh how fucking convenient)

Oh and I got accused of gaslighting him again.

the ‘pet name’ his female ‘best friend’ called him is apparently a common name for a ‘sub’ so I’m told. Suddenly a lot of stuff makes more sense .

Get an STD test for sure, just in case.

Ew, he sounds disgusting and completely sex obsessed. Carrying around cock rings and leaving used condoms around 🤢 and that's before the even more disturbing updates. Glad you've made the decision to not bother with him anymore. You'll end up being a sex object to him.

Sounds like a wrong un. I’ve got a horrible image of a man loitering around in a hoody stuffed with cockrings. The find of additional paraphernalia just confirms you are right to get rid.