Cockrings - dodgy?

[nc4thisagain]

been with bf 2 few years , don’t live together . On 2 occasions he has accidentally pulled a cockring out of his pocket, I will attach pics. First the black and most recently the pink one , these are stock photos as close as I can get to what they looked like.

the black one I didn’t say anything just let it go , presumed he uses them for masturbation . He never uses one with me .

but the pink one I questioned. He got defensive and said he was going to use it with me and changed his mind and put it in his pocket (he was not wearing his hoodie while we were having sex) I wasn’t angry or anything and was calm when I asked him but he accused me of gaslighting him (???) he was then in a mood for the rest of the day .

so I’m not sure what to think . It’s more his reaction than anything else . In the past I’ve also found used condoms to which he claimed ‘posh wank’

It's actually not that uncommon for men to use them alone for edging. But the condom thing is definitely a lie.

oh grow up

I was thinking the same ,I must be a bit naive but not naive to believe the posh wank bit.

My DH has a friend that only wanks into condoms!

Gently @nc4thisagain, your boyfriend is either gay or bi. He's using these with another man.

I am completely on that page with you!

Who is just walking around with cock rings in their pocket? What are they for, emergency orgies?

If you want to put him off for life you can let him know the fire service get called out to hospitals more often than you'd think to cut stuck cock rings off of people. Unless you think the idea of a fireman handling his gentleman's vegetables would be a positive for him, of course.

Having used a similar one, it definitely is! There's a tiny vibrator at the top, which hits the right spot when he's inside you. I've had some of my best orgasms that way.
That said, casually carrying around not one but two cock rings is really odd. If you've discussed using, or have used, toys before then maybe bringing one over to see if you fancied trying it. But it doesn't sound like that's the case here.

It’s perfectly normal to use these in a heterosexual relationship so jumping to ‘he’s gay’ is a huge and incorrect assumption. But this does require a conversation with you and that’s not happened. So it personal use or with someone that isn’t you.
Personally I wouldn’t be able to to get over the hygiene issues with him carrying them around in his pocket. That’s grim. You don’t just find them and pick them up, you use them, clean them and store them appropriately.
Even if he’s not cheating you seem to be incompatible and he’s likely being evasive. Make of that what you want and make decisions accordingly.

I’ve just asked DH and he said maybe your partner is a deviant who likes using them to wank in public? We can’t work out why he carries them in his pocket.

I like a posh wank and sometimes I like using a cock ring that holds my balls because I like the sensation.... but these things are kept in the designated draw at home and are not in any way secret.

As others have said "just" having them in his pocket needs a bit of explanation...

As another poster said, the pink one has a vibrating bullet on top. I’ve used them before doesn’t mean he’s gay however it doesn’t indicate cheating. Who carries those around? The condom is obviously not a good sign either.

He goes dogging.

A posh wank is a thing for some men and no, a cock ring doesn’t mean he’s having sex with men. I mean, he might be having sex with men, but the cock ring is just a general sex thing, not a specifically gay thing.

But carrying cock rings in his pockets on two different occasions is 100% dogger behaviour. If I found these in a man’s bedside drawer or something, I wouldn’t even bat an eyelid, but carrying them in the pocket of a hoodie? Twice? Yeah, dogging I reckon. Possibly cruising, but the pink one is meant for pleasuring a woman so I’d say more likely dogging.

How on earth are posters jumping to he’s gay??

a cock ring just keeps a man hard for longer period of time. Doesn’t matter who he’s having sex with.

I mean it’s weird he has them randomly in his pocket but nothing to do with gay sex.

I have no idea why people are jumping to the conclusion he is gay, I wear them with my GF regularly- they help her as much as me as it vibrates against her clit.

That said, if they were for you to use together, I’d assume he’d present them still packaged. And them
Falling out of his pocket TWICE is weird, although this may be a ploy to get you on board to save embarrassment?!

Cock rings, especially the ones that vibrate aren’t used solely for ED. If he has no issues with you then the assumption that he is cheating and using them with someone else is also a little strange.

as for the condoms, posh wanks do exist, although. Not common. I’ve used them before, even though I don’t ejaculate, but can’t say it’s a regular occurrence.

It’s definitely not embarrassment of wanting to broach using them with me. We’re not prudish with each other and I know he does things on his own and he knows I don’t care.
but them being in his pocket suggests he’s used them somewhere other than his own bed and as I say in my op it’s his defensive reaction.

Emergency orgies ... Gentlemen's vegetables

He’s not for the likes of you OP! He sounds grubby.

😂

My curiosity got the better of me. Turns out it's not fitted quite how I thought. Makes sense now.

I’m gonna have to do a google private search myself now..

emergency orgies!!!
What a way to start my day. Reading about the uses for cock rings and emergency orgies.

gentleman's vegetables
😂😆

😂 great thread, agree he sounds grubby, not one but two, be prepared and all that. Bin him
off OP.

I have to know, are they just dangling around in his pocket along with his phone and keys? Or does he at least wrap them in plastic to keep them clean?