DH and I went for a long weekend away. We were visiting an elderly relative of mine, who is unwell and we probably won’t see again. We flew home on Monday, and my birthday was Tuesday.
In duty free, DH asked if I wanted to chose something for my birthday. He‘s got form
for being shit with gifts. I told him I‘d rather have nothing than choose my own gift in duty free. I asked if he has got me anything for my birthday and he said I’d have to wait and see. Then I went to the bathroom for a little cry. Mainly about my relative, but partly because of DH.
The next day he gave me some Swarovski earrings. Nice surprise. Then I thought- I‘m at home every morning so I know they didn’t come in the post. We live in the arse end of nowhere so he can’t (and won’t) have gone shopping. And he was with me all weekend when we were away. So I asked if he got them delivered to his work. He said he got them in duty free when I went to the toilet (he doesn’t know I was crying).
So basically if I hadn’t gone to the toilet, he wouldn’t have got me a birthday gift. It’s ok for me to be annoyed about this, right?
It‘s a milestone birthday next year. How can I avoid a big disappointment? Please don’t say LTB. He‘s a good DH in all other ways.