Obnoxious Dating Profile?

[WiseAdviceNeededPlease]

Would you find this obnoxious / a red flag in a dating profile?
"Note that I am lean and fit and am physically attracted to the same body type in terms of chemistry - admittedly quite superficial of me (apologies.)"
This is part of an otherwise ok dating profile of a 49 year old man (supposedly looking for a serious relationship) who messaged me.
Is this is a posh version of "No fatties" or "Don't waste my time if you don't have a hot body."? and would it be a hard pass for you?
Thanks!

Ive seen some fb reels about it. The idea is to burn the haystack to find the needle. So you block profiles you aren’t interested in so they don’t keep coming back and to help the algorithm (block to burn). I’m not OLD anymore but it seems to make a lot of sense (although is a bit American). There is also a fb group. This is her insta and she has various reels about the 10 rules etc: www.instagram.com/word_case_scenario?igsh=MXFrb2M4MGdhNmliMA==

I’m not in the dating game, but if I were I’d want someone who enjoyed the same things as me. I’m a long distance runner, I enjoy cycling, outdoor swimming, paddleboarding etc. I’m rapidly approaching my 60’s and doing everything I can to enjoy my later years as a fit and healthy pensioner. I’m damned if I’m going to get saddled with an overweight smoker who going to need me to
be his carer in the next 5 years. Or even someone that’s moaning about my long Sunday run. My husband isn’t nearly as fit as me and that’s fine because we have a very long shared history and I promised to love him in sickness and health but I’d not be starting a new relationship with someone unfit and unhealthy. It’s important that I gave shared values and placing importance on health and fitness is a value I’d look for.

"Looking for someone who is also fit" is totally reasonable, I think this guy comes across as more controlling though, which is something I'm trying to avoid due to previous experiences.

Yes I think it would be a turn off to say that you wouldn't want to date someone lean and fit also.

I've seen his pictures, he looks ok physically, btw he's also asking for high IQ and EQ. I get that he is asking for what he wants in a clear way. I think we're just not a match I need someone more sensitive and easy going. I always seem to end up with men like this OLD guy and feeling like I'm in the army with all the expectations they have which is why I'm thinking this through carefully.

Me too. I couldn’t be with someone so exacting as I’m basically quite low energy and like to just take things as they come. I think I’d be stressed with someone like that. Easy going would be my preference.

Nothing wrong with what he wants (and high EQ is very important) but he’d scare me off.

Yes absolutely. I’d hate to have some dates then realise he wants me to go hiking, running, going to the gym at 7am on a Saturday morning. I’d rather know from the off and avoid. I’m more of a restaurants, concerts, theatre fan.

I’m a size 8 and would find that off-putting.

So unless I'm willing to completely ignore what I find attractive in a partner, that's a turn off?

If I'm not attracted to X, why would I risk wasting my time, and theirs?

I think that unfortunately the liars in OLD have ruined it for most people.

It used to be that you could judge from the photos whether someone was your physical type or not, but so many people use old pics, in very flattering lighting/poses and then you meet up with a person who is a decade older, four stone heavier than you were led to believe and gets out of breath eating soup.

Whilst I’m not a massive fan of what this guy has written, I can understand when people get to the point of saying things like this as so much catfishing goes on.

A male friend of mine even had an online chat with a potential match about the ludicrousness of using old pics, which the woman agreed with and said she’d never do, but a quick Facebook search showed her main photo was 8 years old 🤦🏻‍♀️ When he raised this with her she said he was a stalker, and it didn’t matter as she still looked the same (Reader: she did not look the same 🙄)

So to all those saying “you can tell from their photos what they look like, no need to state what you want”, you honestly can’t.

Which is ridiculous, as everyone has a camera on their phone, so they could just take an honest pic and upload that!

So he doesn’t want fat women to contact him, that’s fair enough. At least he’s bright enough not to actually state that.

Same. I’m a size 8 and very fit and would swipe no (not sure if that’s left or right!) if I was looking. Just as I wouldn’t put a list of physical attributes I was looking for in a man.

its objectifying. That’s the word I was looking for!

I'm still waiting for someone to post the classification for the 1-10 numbers. Have asked on a few places, no one seems to know, it's very subjective. (surprise, surprise).

He's being clear about what he's attracted to. Can't really see a problem with that. If you don't fit this criteria I'd give him a swerve. If you do then it's up to you whether you want to give him a try.
Not sure why this has triggered you so much. Have you been messaging with this guy?

I would steer clear it’s a warning he has high expectations. Weight can fluctuate, I wonder if dumps a gf soon as she puts on a bit of weight, he’d judge you for eating crisps in front of him, who’d want that kind of pressure.
I much rather match with someone more easy going and fatter!

The subtext is also that you shouldn't be suprised or moan if he spends all his time down at the gym looking at himself in the mirror. Shallow as a puddle... but obviously has an over inflated sense of self importance. Count how many times he says
a) I, me, my and
b) you

...and you'll have she insight into who he is focused on.

Me neither. It's not so much the body type thing. He sounds like he'd be watching everything you ate and there is no joy in that.

I would swerve. I think I would fit his criteria but, like a lot of women of all sizes, I am self conscious about my weight. Knowing my weight was so important to my partner would make me feel very insecure.

Also I recently tore my ACL so will put in a bit of weight as I can’t exercise. This is stressful enough for me without worrying that the associated weight gain is going to get me dumped.

He has himself said that he is shallow. Literally in his owns words. If you like shallow guys, go for it. If you don't, avoid.

Thank you so much everyone who replied!
The reason this was a dilemma for me was because this guy is local and has way more interests in common with me than any of the other OLD guys I've seen, he's also quite good looking and sent a charming opening message. However my first instinct after reading his profile was that he is a hard no (for me) based on his general tone, the way he expressed his requirements for a woman's body type plus a few other comments. He also described himself as "Type A" but looking for someone easy going. I think he probably actually needs another "Type A" person with the same kind of expectations. In a nutshell we are not a match so I will keep going as I am.

He also described himself as "Type A" but looking for someone easy going.

This, combined with the wording of his physical preferences, does seem to confirm he'd be demanding and prescriptive (as well as lacking the EQ himself he''s wanting from a woman.) I would read "easy going" in this instance as "submissive" and would also yuck out of there.

But he’s describing the type of person he wants to go on a date with, not how he would deal with someone potentially gaining weight in the context of a long marriage.

Hard swerve.

This is a rather nasty hoop for you to jump through from the off.
He will spend his time doing that on all fronts if you progress to a relationship

There is a woman on Facebook who analyses toxic dating profiles. This is a mixture of “disciplinary directive” and “I’m the prize”.

He lost me at ‘Note’.

He can fuck off with his imperatives.