Hi
my friends have told me that the man I am currently with is not the one and that I need to get rid asap but my heart is telling me otherwise.
the bar is currently very low I must say, even I’m suprised that I’ve stuck around. He makes no effort to plan date nights, everything is last minute, I constantly fit in around his life rather than him making time for me. Yet it’s the other way around for me.
we had a date night planned a month in advance, was meant to be tomorrow and he still hasn’t planned anything. Only decided he’d pull his finger out when I said that I’m disappointed with the lack of effort. Has left it so late he can’t find anywhere to go.
we also had a date in the diary for a long weekend away, it was put in nearly 4 months ago and a couple of weeks ahead he’s saying he is going to do a car racing experience, so our romantic getaway has been cancelled.
he’s admitted to chatting up other women on holiday as he wasnt clear on boundaries due to being single for his entire adult life. He is 33.
im extremely low down on the priority list for him. All of my concerns have been voiced and he’s meant to be making more effort, but so far, I can’t see anything progressing or changing. Feel like it’s become hard work and unenjoyable, however, when we are together we have such a laugh.
if my friends told me this, I’d say get rid right this second. But my heart really does feel strongly for him.
am I mad to continue with this? Or do I just have really high expectations.