Mummy issues bf

[Missy09]

my partner has a diff bond and things I see and Sruff my heads having thoughts I’m nervous to talk bout it but if anyone would like to hear or know and give advice be grateful

So would my thoughts of what I worry is happening would seem could be true then basically
as I feel people may agree wit me on the thoughts

Who knows but you need to leave him, you can’t help him. All I’m saying is leave and if you are sleeping together then get a screen done.

Fuck sake, everything about this is ridiculous including the spelling and grammar to the (nearly impossible to decipher) topic.

And why is that ???

Look if you came looking for advice, thats your instinct! Trust it!! You have came here to validate that his family set up or his sexual kinks are not normal and it makes you uncomfortable.

Whilst I'd never intentionally kink shame anyone (unless its illegal, kids, animals, etc etc) the whole set up is disturbing.

So take your instinct and listen to it, we have validated you, you should never have to feel that your own thoughts and feelings are not valid.....ever.

Seriously?! 😂🤣😂

Yeah seriously
if I don’t have an opinion or advice or nothing nice to say then go
why come here and do that
there is no need

Thank you I appreciate that so much

This is so rude I struggle with words and sentences I can’t help that go somewhere else and be rude
nothing better to do ?

I just wanted to know if the thoughts I had of sexual between them was crazy or I had a reason to think this
I struggle with this cos when we together I look at him and I know him and I’m like no
so I just wanted opinions on this so I can approach this right
I feel like I sound crazy now thinking they are doing stuff tbh
but others saying different

Honestly, relationships shouldn’t be this difficult. They shouldn’t tie you up in knots with worry and angst. You shouldn’t be trying to untangle what ifs and whys. This doesn’t sound good for your well-being or joy.

That's all quite vague, you need to be more specific so we understand, Missy. Use words rather than acronyms.

Oh god I just got taken right back to my ex! He used to call me mummy all the time. At first I thought it was because I had a child and he was just emulating or ensuring my son knew who he was talking about and then my friend pointed out that it was weird and beyond that. Like when my son wasn’t there. We were in a bar with friends!
I then realised that he was weird in the bedroom and that his kinks were always related to being told off! Sounds silly now to be blind to it, but when you’re in the middle you don’t see sometimes. It’s like the matrix though, once you’ve seen it, it’s done.
Get rid my dear!

And as I said some things he says are like scenarios that are so descriptive like they have happened so yeah I think I have reason to have this thought

I have said I struggle with words sentences

Seriously are you unable to recognise when someone is struggling with literacy. There is a time and place to pull apart grammar and now isn't it.

OP, listen to your instincts. They are telling you this is wrong. I would walk away.

I didn’t mean to sound harsh, and I think I have. I’m sorry for that because it’s not my intention. I just meant that you deserve better than this. It’s sounds worrying and unhealthy. I hope happier days are ahead for you.

And please ignore anyone criticising you for your writing. Nerves are completely understandable when you’re talking about something so difficult. You’re expressing yourself absolutely fine.

It doesn’t matter if you’re crazy for thinking it (you’re not by the way).

this man is causing you serious angst and you’re unhappy with how he’s treating you.

that is enough to walk away.

Faqir enough, Missy, that's not your fault and you are not alone in having that problem. However you cannot expect us all to understand what you are expressing.

Just take your time about it, everyone wants to help.

I gather you think the relationship your boyfriend has with his mother is unhealthy.

Fair enough, not 'Faqir enough', as I posted above. There you are, Missy, we all make mistakes!

To continue, do you really need this relationship? He is not the only fish in the pool, Missy, why not wait until you meet someone who does not give you anxiety.

With all due respect, several people have told you to end it as you are obviously not comfortable with him. He’s 23 and you’re 34 so there may also be an immaturity gap there also further compounding the issue.

i wouldn’t bother tying myself up in knots trying to understand his behaviour. Free yourself and carry on with your life.

I totally understand. It's not that you actually BELIEVE that he's having sex with his Mother. It's that their dynamic, their vibe, their demeanour.....are so intensely and uneasily close that it gives off a sexual "edge"

I dated someone whose relationship with his Mother was like this. It made me feel really really uneasy

I ended it.

His Mother is dead now. He's alone.

Your number one priority is your mental health and well being. This situation is causing you distress whether it is real or unreal. The best course of action is for you to distance yourself from this relationship, block him and move on to something that is more natural.

Sounds like he's a pervert. Dump him and move on!

Well he may be comfortable saying it to you OP, but I bet you're not comfortable hearing it. Best off without him, men with kinks don't change they just get more obsessed, in my experience.