Mummy issues bf

[Missy09]

my partner has a diff bond and things I see and Sruff my heads having thoughts I’m nervous to talk bout it but if anyone would like to hear or know and give advice be grateful

Apologies my nerves are high

Ok enmeshed relationships are tricky, complex and frustrating because he will not see/refuse to see what you see. Been there, done that, walked away. Weirdly he messaged a year or so later to say that he had a wake up call and had therapy etc. That was probably due to women all walking away for the same reason.

The sexual but is going to need to explained more. Are you saying tou think they have been sexual with each other? Or he has a "mummy kink" because he has grown up in the parent role and wants to revery to childhood to a certain extent??

How does that stop you from writing "my boyfriend calls me "mummy" while we're having sex, and he sleeps in the same room as his mum. "

He says things like I’m peeking mummy and more but I’m so nervous I’m sorry and said he got more or stepmom kink used to watch lot of porn too but he is talking to me saying mummy I miss you etc and stuff just more but yeah it’s so descriptive I have had them
thoughts yes

Stop listening to those people they are grooming you. It is very rarel for men to want a sexual relationship with their mother whether actually or “role play”

you’ve had several posters advise you to end it. Is there different advice that you would prefer?

Was brung up with his mum and sis always with his mum always and sleep in same room sofas opposite living room at 23

Ok I’m only commenting back when a comment and I am taking it all in thank you

Well because I’m trying to be open and say what I’m feeling I was told this is a great place for advice so I’m out my comfort zone here sorry

I disagree on the role play aspect. Its more common than you think.... well step-mum certainly is....but to normal folk who dont need to use porn, they just like older women. Swear most of this comes from American Pie.

However, if im reading the scenario right, just walk away. Kinks are generally formed out of some form of trauma and it sounds like hes not had a normal, loving, typical parent/child upbringing. If hes 23, I imagine you are a similar age..... walk away. In fact don't walk, run. You are too young to be dealing with other people's trauma bonds. It will not end well!

Ignore the snarky people.

Yeh he was brung up by his mum and sister his dad died
so he always been with his mum mostly
he says he like this cos he knows he will lose her one day and he lost one parent already

But mum and son surely can’t be normal he said he was a horny teenager lol watched porn loads I think he got deep into is one of my thoughts x

It sounds to me like he need a serious chat with a therapist. You cannot be comfortable with this, please leave this man/child before he hurts you.

Lots of people lose parents early in life. It happens and whilst it sucks its also not healthy to be in the dynamic you are describing. It may well be enmeshed but part of me thinks its also disturbing.

Has he had relationships before you? Have they lasted and ended for other reasons, to your knowledge anyway?

What about his sister, is she in this dynamic too or is she living a "normal life"

I’ve slept with a lot of men and have never had anyone ask me to pretend to be his mother whilst we fucked. I’d throw that one back if I were you.

I don't see why being nervous would prevent you editing your messages?

Give the girl.a break, christ, she thrown herself into a taboo subject, is young and is probably typing as she thinks. Maybe shes ND..... or maybe she doesn't know theres an edit button.

Oh for god’s sake, just dump him.

His relationship with his own mother is overly intense.

His obsession with wanting to call you ‘mummy’ and role play mother-son scenarios in the bedroom is clearly something you find unpleasant, but he is continuing to do it - that’s not good. He isn’t respecting your boundaries and he isn’t interested what you do or don’t find sexy; he’s selfish and creepy.

Also… no, all men do not have this obsession. I’ve slept with plenty of men and none - literally none - have been into that.

If you’re being forced into any sexual act you’re not comfortable with then that is abuse and needs to stop right now

whatever the details of their relationship, it’s not your mess to unpick, you’re far too young to waste your precious time on this OP

please ignore all the grumpy posters on here, they have nothing better to do than quip in with put downs to strangers online and could just move on rather than being nasty

You sound like a kid no sense whatsoever, not sure what nerves have to do with typing in a normal manner.

She is moved out but said he can have her room he said.he can’t it hers
but she has commented on his age and sleeping arrangements a lot
me too

only a few but he said they made out they was together then would bin him off
said he never said the stuff he does to anyone else but me cos he feels comfy with me

Thank you so much I do struggle with how to words and sentences I can’t help that pls don’t bring negativity when I come here for advice

First time on this app so yeah all new and I struggle with words at times i have my whole life also I wouldn’t say I’m young I’m 34

Not forced no called me mummy that was it the scenarios haven’t happened at all
and thank you
I just need advice an opinions not negativity as this is huge me doing this usually I don’t talk about my feelings

Listen you are 11 years older than him, he calls you mummy during sex and shares a room with his mum. This isn’t normal. Leave him and find a man your own age that hasn’t got issues. I’m sorry but just because he lost his dad doesn’t mean he has to share a room or bed with his mum and certainly doesn’t mean he can do sexual mum role plays , it’s disgusting and he needs help.