Does your partner say I love you in and out of the bedroom?

[lovenotwar149]

Ok ladies , I'm putting it out there quite bravely.....
Y'day my hubby and I were making out (nice) and in the moment I said 'I love you' and he said nothing. I was ok with this. The session went on , it was lovely and we had a meal out after too. Lovely , all good.
In recent times , several months now, the topic of saying I love you has come up by me. That is , saying it in general , not necessarily whist making out. I have asked him why he rarely , rarely , says it. He hasn't really come up with anything on that , other than agree that he doesn't say it to me, nor compliment much either. He tells our 3 adult sons that he loves them regularly when appropriate etc. He says he wants them to feel loved. I like that he does this towards our sons btw. No jealously there. Its a different relationship.
I am starting to have an issue with this. He's a decent man btw ppl , VERY marriage material. Stable , reliable, funny , great at DIY. He's not at all selfish in the bedroom might I add too. Any thoughts ??

I guess the thing is, are you happy? Do you feel loved, respected, cared for? I don't think everyone will say it or have it in their pocket to necessarily say it or even 'feel' it - and I don't mean that critically. But that does not mean a relationship is bad, just different. And if it works for you, that's positive.

I don't even know what the phrase "love language" means. My late parents loved me, I was the only one
My mum used to say "you're a liittle smasher".I knew I was loved. One of my bosses (nasty bit of work) was a lodger with my now DH, I didn't know that at the time. I was told "don't turn your back on him" (this was the late 80s) his wife also worked in the same building. She used to come to our office for lunch,there was lots of "love you", between them in monosyllabic voices. He was a breakdown driver,we had a special ex directory line for people like the RAC, where I could contact him(it was radio then) he was out of the office shagging everything with a pulse..my DH confirmed this behaviour went on when he was his lodger, because his first wife threw him out!

I do wonder about those who put “I love you” at the end of every text, or say it 100 times throughout the day. It becomes formulaic and generic to me at that point, not sincere and meaningful.