Doing checks too early is putting me off

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So, I have started dating this lovely woman, 2 dates within 1 month and she has request personal information etc to do Clare's law(she asked for personal information, address history), sexual test(share results etc)

I do like her obviously, we talk daily, but I do not feel comfortable to do all these things just after 1 month, I am not even sure yet if we are an item yet, if we will be sexually compatible etc. She has never been abused or anything so no trauma that I would assume is triggering her.

I get it is for security but am I silly for feeling this way? She has a kid but i have not even suggested to meet the child or go to her house etc.

For context, I am in the military, I have a clean record, never been arrested or stopped for a single things in my 40 years on earth. I am not hiding anything, I just feel like she is jumping too ahead and it is putting me off sending someone my address history etc. I do not even know her child's name as she has only told me his nickname and I do not wish to ask until she feels like she can tell me

This made me chuckle actually

You can still catch STI/Ds using condoms unfortunately.

TBH she sounds crazy and I wouldn't give this stranger my personal details.

I have looked up men on LinkedIn and let them know I've done that, and you should assume that most women you date have sent your name and picture to a friend who knows they are meeting you, but more than this is extreme.

Yes, and you can still catch STIs from someone who supplies a ‘clean’ certificate from a test taken a few days ago who then had unprotected sex before you slept with them. A condom is safer than relying on days-old test results. How many times do they need to take an STD test? Because people often multi-date in the early stages before you become ‘official’ as a couple.

Yike - 2 dates!!!
Although STD testing is reasonable if you ever get to that point.

Too early for this level of intrusion. And ask for her information. She may be the one with the shady past.

Perhaps she is waiting to see what your reaction is?

Claire's law can take a good month to complete and she is only being proactive in my view.

if you are military and moved around a bit it could taken a bit longer

Gosh no, after two dates! It all sounds rather intense to.me, and intrusive at this stage. Also a bit keen and assuming you and she have planned a life together, which is a bit off putting imo.

I wouldn't be handing over my personal details just yet. Has she shared all her personal details with you, for you to run some checks, get a few references? Women can also be abusers.

Read up on Claires law. See how its applied for. Perhaps she has a past partner who was abusive. She might be holding back truth, as you donh know each other well at all.

Am I the only person who uses condoms when having sex with a new partner? 🤔

They can split, not be put on right . Asking someone they're sexual history makes sense to me.