I want to scream.
my H of 21 yrs has formed a friendship with a woman at work. I told him last year I was uncomfortable with how the friendship was forming and he assured me I was the most important thing to him and he would go no contact with her. I was left feeling content and happy. Fast forward to now, her name pops up on his phone, so naturally I asked what’s going on there. He says they’re friends and nothing more and that he doesn’t feel ‘free’ when I demand he has no friends that are women.
i told him I don’t care if he has friends that are women but I do with her and we spoke of it last year. He said he likes her friendship and he wants to keep it.
he’s literally stopped me having male friends throughout all our time together, I purposely have never made any small talk or chatted to other men as I knew how he would feel and because his feelings were more important to me. So it was an easy thing to do to.
i read his messages to her, giving her support, taking time out of his busy work day to have a quick 5 mins catch up with her. Her dumping all her problems on him and him being so fucking supportive of her.
he does nothing like that for me, he’ll dismiss me when I want to talk, ignores me, never tells me I’m beautiful yet he’s telling this woman she’s a 9.8!
im done with him, whatever he says means nothing now, the trust has gone.
I’m just filled with anger that like a mug I stayed true and loyal to him whilst he was getting his kicks with a woman 10 yrs younger than him.
i know I need to look at the positives as throughout our relationship I always felt I was walking on eggshells. I knew I was unhappy in this marriage but tried to make it work for the kids. Now I know I need to suck it up and face reality and leave the fucker.