Does anyone else want a relationship for company, sex, companionship but not the more serious things?

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I’m early 30s but divorced for the last 5 years with 1 young son.
id like a relationship but I don’t think I want to live with someone, combine finances or families. Is this strange? All my friends say il feel differently when I meet the right person but I just don’t think want that

Yes, this is what I want and most older (40s) single people I speak to seem to want the same thing. Yet finding it feels difficult!

This is exactly what I have and I feel very grateful.

In fact if you already have established the main aspects of your life (eg house, children, career) why would you want to disrupt that to build something with someone new. It's common sense!

I think it’s called “living apart together”

I would love an arrangement (relationship?) like that.

I have no desire to entangle my life with someone again but wouldn't want a FWB. I know it works for some but I'd just feel used. Plus I want the odd dinner out together or an evening just chatting. My ideal would be seeing someone 2 or 3 times a month! It's not going to happen though so am just staying single.

I'm in a committed relationship. Always been exclusive. I'm not feeling any desire to live with him though. I think that's pretty normal at a certain point.

Yes. This would be my heaven.

My DDs say “most men”. The most non committed of the human being species!

Most men? What do you mean? I’m a woman

I have been married to DH for 5 years together for 8 (second marriage for us both) and we have never lived together, I don't think we ever will. It suits us perfectly.

Agree. I’d like a pretty casual relationship where we both had our own lives but still go on dates once a week maybe.
I can’t do FWB because I have to have an emotional connection to have sex

I think it'd be ideal to have an "arm's length" long term relationship where you can have the companionship, fun, sex (maybe), nights out, holidays, etc., without all the stress of "blending" your families, moving two homes into one, etc. It's certainly what I'd be looking for if my OH dies before me. There's no way I could live with someone else nor "blend" our families nor merge our finances. If I couldn't find an "arm's length" partner, then I simply wouldn't bother, and I wouldn't spend too much time looking for such a person either. Happy enough to live on my own and be single, but it would be nice to have a "partner" to do things with.

Why get married then?

I think this is what I want, but then I struggle as I feel I can’t ask my partner for support with stuff around the house or lightening the load for example without that further commitment.

I love our seperate time where I can be by myself but do want someone to lean on - it’s confusing

Yes, me! That's exactly what I want in an ideal world, but don't really have the time even for that right now, so FWB it is!

I'm a widowed parent to primary aged DC and was with DH for a long time. I think this is quite common for women after long term relationships, unless they're keen to have more kids.

I have a FWB also sleep around on holiday if i fancy sex i just hook up with someone.
I do bed not dates.
Its not for everyone but it works for me.
I love my life my home my very 2 close friends.

I get told your find the one your want kids etc give it time your still young.
Im 39 this year and its not going to happen my baby as moved out them days are over.

And no man is using me again fuck that.
Whats mine is mine what i earn is mine what i have is mine i will not share it been there and im not going back.

I love my single life my peace and to do what i want when i want i have no one to answer to no one to question me.

It works for them thats all that matters.
Not everyone would want my life or even like it but it works for me.

You can stay single and still have fun.

I'm very happily married but if that changed for any reason I think I'd be very wary of merging my life with someone else. Me and my DH grew up together so to speak and have known each other since our teens. The trust and knowledge is so high it seems inconceivable that I'd have that with someone else but of course you never know!

Same here, OP. I've had it before and it was brilliant. The problems arose in that relationship when we moved in together and I didn't have my own space.

This is pretty much what I am doing, but I am older (50s). DP and I each have our own houses, finances, adult children, and like having our own space, but are in a committed, mutually supportive relationship, which is perfect at our time of life. We are also long distance, so spend a few days to a couple of weeks together at a time.

Our (extended) families have got to know each other, and we sometimes do joint events (Christmas etc) but as they are all grown-ups, we don't need to be 'step-parent' to each other's children; I have a friendly, adult relationship with his DC and he with mine.

The only downside for most people, I think, would be the added expense of running two households rather than one. And a long distance relationship like this would probably only work if you were either retired or able to work remotely.

Yes!! I've been single 5years, if I could have this I would. I don't want to live with anyone again. But going on a few nights out or weekend holidays sounds fab. I have no desire to date at all tho.....wonder when that desire comes back because I don't feel it at all 🙈

Yes - 100% this is what I want!

I’d like to be in a relationship where I saw the person once or twice a week, definitely don’t want to live together. I can’t do FWB. Attempted recently, but was complicated by fact we did start a relationship 2.5yrs ago (didn’t see each other that much as he’s a single dad) but split but kept in touch via message then started seeing each other regularly in work again. Ended up going to his one evening a month ago. Now it’s gone tits up again as he drives me potty leaving me on read all the time.

I would always struggle I think with a FWB but maybe i’d be ok if they weren’t an ex to start with. I’d definitely like some sex! Next guy needs to have older kids or their mother still involved. Or no kids (mine grown).

I have this. DP and I been together for 4 years both late 40s. We tried living together as I sold my house had a rental fall through. I wanted to rent to buy a new build. So moved into his. We struggled but I think that was more to do with me coming into his space than our space

we are now living apart. See each other 4 times a week. Space for 3 days. We go on holiday, events, know each others families and friends. We talked about moving in together as financially it’s better. But we like our lives and realised we would need a big house to have the space we want