Lovely boyfriend doesn’t know how bad my stretch marks are yet.

[Kpiallo]

Is this catfishing? I’ve been with my hoody for a while he’s incredible and gorgeous and in amazing shape.

I’m not in the best shape after having my children, the stretch marks I got on my upper thighs and all over my bum are horrendous and I can’t do anything to make them look better.

I’ve managed to keep them hidden by having sex when it’s dark or dimmed lighting and not walking around naked.

Will he be really mad/disappointed when he sees how unnattractive my bum and thighs are? I’m scared it will turn him off me and my self esteem is low anyway.

Nope. If he likes you, he likes you!

Men literally do not give a shiny shit.

Unless theyre the ones making money from the products marketed at women, in which case they're the ones creating this into an issue.

Oh my love, no real man gets to the stage you are taking clothes off and runs shrieking from an entirely normal female body.

Confidence is VERY attractive.

Don't force yourself, but when you are comfortable enough with him to let it all hang out, I promise you will wonder what you were ever worrying about.

OP please don't hide. I have stretch marks through being overweight. My last partner was very loving, appreciated my curves, thought i was gorgeous. I'm not but felt like I was. Lights on i say😄

Absolutely not and tbh if he was that shallow he’s not a keeper. Is he a Chris hemsworth Adonis?

You either go cold turkey and let him see you as you are or you ease yourself into it by having a light fake tan which will make the appearance of skin look smoother.

That might give you a bit of dividends to start off with but as others have said, it’s really not an issue for men.

When we look in the mirror we are not moving and it’s easy to zoom in on any perceived imperfections but when we are walking around things we have focussed on are really not noticeable.

I hope I will, I’ve wondered if I should just tell it’s something I’m insecure about and sorry for hiding it or coming across as shy/standoffish at certain times.

I felt quite confident when we first met, but I’ve become really attached to him, and through no fault of his I’ve become worried about him seeing how bad my skin is.

Are there any things that anyone knows of that can help my skin?

Men don’t care!!! Seriously! I’m covered in stretch marks, numerous surgical scars, 50+ wobbly bits blah blah they do not care!

Lights on 💡

I think it's worth pointing out that many very physically fit people have lots of stretch marks, either from previous weight gain/ loss, growing very tall very fast during puberty or quickly building muscle.

Stretch marks are just a genetic thing some people are more predisposed to due to their growth rates and elasticity of the skin. Obviously womens bodies go under a lot of change during pregnancy which affects where they will get stretch marks. It's completely and totally normal to have them and aren't any reflection on health or wellbeing. The beauty industry started to advertise them as a negative for women (even though most men have them too) in order to sell women creams and lotions which don't work as a capital venture. It was unfortunately a very successful campaign and the idea women shouldn't have them, stuck.

So they're absolutely nothing negative and I'd honestly be very surprised if your boyfriend has absolutely none anywhere on his body.

I'd say that he'd actually need to be quite immature/ very unfamiliar with a womans naked body to be shocked or put off by your stretch marks and tbh that would completely put me off him anyway.

You've nothing to hide, your body brought your kids safely into the world and has been a source of comfort for them and strength and health for you. Your skin does not need help. There's nothing wrong with it, it's perfectly normal exactly as it is. No need for lights off!

I think your bum looks lovely! And I’m sure anyone you’ve undressed in front of will also think so!

Will he be really mad/disappointed when he sees how unnattractive my bum and thighs are?

Tbh we don’t know him as a person or what he likes or dislikes so the only person that can answer that is your boyfriend.
He might not mind them or care about them but if he does get put off then he’s not the guy for you

I have actually never known a man mention stretch marks. Mine were similar to yours aged 30. I'm now 50 and they are possibly less apparent but I have literally not thought about them for twenty years. They are really not a thing to put anyone off

He won’t care. Nobody has ever said anything to me and my body’s a right state. I have confidence though and just don’t worry about it.

Decent men understand what babies do to our bodies xx
yours is beautiful

You look fine. Lots of men have stretch marks. My son has them on his back from when he grew in height very quickly during puberty.

Wow all of your amazing comments on here have made me cry!! It wasn’t what I expected at all. Thank you to everyone for being so positive.

I do have self esteem issues, but sometimes can feel really confident. It’s just difficult when I’m not feeling great.

I do appreciate that my body has done an amazing job in growing and birthing my beautiful, healthy children and that should be all that matters.

I just feel that I’ve never seen anyone with stretch marks as bad as mine. I wish I could afford a big tatto to cover them, would love a full bum tattoo like Cheryl Cole to help my confidence. I’ll have to start saving…

if anyone has any good floral tattoo ideas that would look good on the upper thigh and full bum area please share.

My husband has them on his back and thought that I would be disgusted by them… genuinely never noticed them. When someone sees you naked they’ll just be happy to be there!

Some men actually like them especially on the arse

Tiger stripes 🙂

They aren’t bad at all - get everything out and flaunt it !

I have a huge floral tattoo covering my entire belly to cover my stretch marks. Before that I had very painful plasma pen skin tightening on them which worked a bit. But that was because I didn’t like them, my husband couldn’t have given a shit about them! The vast vast amount of men do not care, I promise you they’re not bothered!

Mothers special blend. I got it years ago as I was paranoid about getting them while pregnant .. it came from the states so at the time it arrived too late and as it happened didn’t get any. I have to a friend .. honestly hers were the worst I’ve ever seen .. she showed me her stomach about 6 months later and you could barely see anything .. she got it then for her sister. It was cheap and she said she felt like an oil slick but it worked in terms of massively improving the condition of her skin so they were barely noticeable. It’s a long time ago but I was stunned

I love my partners stretch marks. I noticed a few on his back and it made me so happy because he used to be unhealthily thin and not look after himself. He's put weight on but I love him for it. Hes happy and healthy and thats all that matters.

I think your bum is very shapely too !
Use a really good rich moisturiser every single day such as palmers coco butter or aveeno the dark blue stripe one, bio oil is recommended for stretch marks too, but anybodies skin will improve with any of these.
You could always wear some sexy underwear but to be honest he isn't going to be focusing on your stretch marks ! , i am far from perfect but my husband seems to think i'm a bit of a goddess in the bedroom 😂it's not what you've got but what you do with it ! and your man is probably thinking phwoar !!!!
So don't worry and enjoy yourself , he is very lucky to have you , remember that.