Lovely boyfriend doesn’t know how bad my stretch marks are yet.

[Kpiallo]

Is this catfishing? I’ve been with my hoody for a while he’s incredible and gorgeous and in amazing shape.

I’m not in the best shape after having my children, the stretch marks I got on my upper thighs and all over my bum are horrendous and I can’t do anything to make them look better.

I’ve managed to keep them hidden by having sex when it’s dark or dimmed lighting and not walking around naked.

Will he be really mad/disappointed when he sees how unnattractive my bum and thighs are? I’m scared it will turn him off me and my self esteem is low anyway.

If he's anything like mine he'll be totally oblivious to them lol. I'm pregnant with number 4 (our first baby together) and had a little moan to him the other day that I've already got new stretch marks and am still only at the half way point.

He was completely confused about it as he had no idea I had new or old stretch marks. I had to show him to prove it as he was insisting I didn't have any 😂

My point being, he most likely won't even notice, he'll just be happy to be there while your naked 😜

I do too!

He’s probably got stretch marks, on his back or under his arms or back of legs. Especially if he’s a gym goer.

I have them on my boobs, tummy, bum, thighs… it’s been 5 years and he’s oblivious

if anyone has any good floral tattoo ideas that would look good on the upper thigh and full bum area please share

I honestly think more men would have an issue with tattoos than stretch marks, I personally would not get one

You look fine. Seriously. Don't most of us have some stretch marks and cellulite? Even models. Yours aren't even bad ones...there's a lot more noticeable ones...red ones / wide ones.

@Kpiallo id make sure I moisturizer after a bath or shower /daily. (White bottle Vaseline intensive care )
What about a fake tan to boost your confidence the st moritz is easy application .
Regarding confidence someone said to me once. .we are all in the and boat wishing we were more confident. so just “fake it untill you make it “

You should be confident in your body and if this man as nice as you think he is then he will not care about stretch marks! Anyway stretch marks are not an indicator of health or fitness and they are just part of life. I’m a size eight and I run everyday, yet I have big stretch marks in my inner thighs and bum from adolescence and pregnancy. I couldn’t care less and my husband doesn’t care either. 🌷

Nearly all women have stretch marks. I've got much wider deeper looking ones than that all over my hips.

Men like your naked body, they fancy you. Be confident that he loves to see, feel, taste, and experience your body, same as you do his.

Frankly if he suddenly doesn't like you because of something so superficial then he doesn't deserve you.

I have stretch marks on my arms, belly and thighs - had them since I was a young adult and no man has ever cared. And mine are pretty obvious as I have dark skin and my marks are light.

Majority of men do not give a shit. They are just happy they get to see a nice ladies bum.
Listen I've been with some absolute pieces of shit in my life. Really terrible men.. men whove hit me, cheated on me, stolen from me... and not even one single one of them has ever commented on my stretch marks (of which I have many)
I can guarantee you this man won't even notice.

Read through 3 pages of fantastic comments and have nothing to add. Gotta love when Mumsnet is 100% right. I feel better about myself now too. Win win.

I had my first child at 16, not sure if age is relevant but my stretchmarks were awful, deep purple marks. Even the GP commented on them (my eldest is 32 and the GP actually visited me at home after birth back then, I had quite bad stitches and bruising). Anyway. They did fade, and they never bother me really. I always am embarrassed to walk around naked to be fair, but don’t have sex in the dark only. I have a lot of scars too from surgeries, I consider them all my battle scars, they tell the story of my life. Sure this guy is not bothered, but have a chat with him about it, and sure he will tell you to stop worrying!

Men don’t care

Sex is sex

They really aren't that bad Op. They're not red or purple, the lighting in the pic makes them seem more prominent than they are. They certainly look better than mine!

I think you're worrying yourself into a tizzy, if he really likes you then they won't be an issue, I bet he won't even notice!

I was looking at underwear to buy online (Debenhams I think) and lots of the models had stretchmarks, so pleased they weren't airbrushed out, this is what our bodies look like!

If you really want to try something though then I found that dry skin brushing was the only thing that had any affect on them, you can pick up a body brush quite cheaply from the body shop or boots. Most of the targeted creams don't do much, it's the act of massaging them in that helps.

Early on when we were getting serious and my dp was being kind of mushy, he once mentioned my strech marks in a long list of things he loved about me.

Men aren't so stuck on the things we often believe they are. The way I think of it is that dp has his little quirks too, something of a pot belly for example, and it really does not put me out at all. A very large percentage of women have stretch marks, wobbly cellulite, and things like that. Men are pretty used to it.

Most people have stretch marks.
Its not a personal failing and it isn't anything to be ashamed of. They're normal.

Lots of these women have stretch marks OP. You just wouldn’t particularly notice them, like he won’t really notice yours. shop.mango.com/gb/en/c/women/bikinis-and-swimsuits_54542b54

You’re giving men too much credit, most of them are just so happy someone’s actually taken their clothes off and they are going to touch that said persons naked body that what it looks like us the last thing on their mind.