Lovely boyfriend doesn’t know how bad my stretch marks are yet.

[Kpiallo]

Is this catfishing? I’ve been with my hoody for a while he’s incredible and gorgeous and in amazing shape.

I’m not in the best shape after having my children, the stretch marks I got on my upper thighs and all over my bum are horrendous and I can’t do anything to make them look better.

I’ve managed to keep them hidden by having sex when it’s dark or dimmed lighting and not walking around naked.

Will he be really mad/disappointed when he sees how unnattractive my bum and thighs are? I’m scared it will turn him off me and my self esteem is low anyway.

My skin develops stretch marks very, very easily, and pregnancy didn’t just cause stretch marks on my thighs, hips, and bum, it also left my stomach permanently looking like a deflated balloon. There’s no tattooing over that!

When my now DH and I started dating, I was so worried about him seeing my stomach. Ended up feeling daft for getting so worked up about it…when it turned out he literally could not have cared less. According to him I am “the sexiest woman on the planet” (he’s biased….but that’s kind of the point I’m making!)

Stretch marks really aren’t going to change how he feels about you, or how attracted he is to you. (And for what it’s worth, you have a lovely bum!)

Oh my goodness - you look absolutely fine! I wish mine looked like that!! Mine are all deep purple! Don’t you worry about it!

Do you know what he will see?

You. Naked.

I have stretch marks! Yeah but youre naked
My leg just fell off. Yeah but you're naked
The house is on fire! You have got no clothes on.

They are not complicated creatures.

OP, you have a fabulous arse, and by the time he gets you into bed the last think he’ll be thinking of is stretch marks. He’ll be thinking, ‘WOOHOO, THERE’S A GORGEOUS NAKED WOMAN IN MY BED! I’M THE LUCKIEST MSN ALIVE!’

Honestly I’d rather see my partners body than have them hide it from me. If you our partner truly cares for you he won’t even see an issue

I think you also need to remember that many people have stretch marks in places that we often only see when we're wearing a lot less clothing - hips/ bum /tummy / boobs/ back or in less obvious places like under arms or back of the knees. So just because you aren't regularly seeing other people's, that is probably more to do with our climate than people not having them because we tend to wear more clothes in the UK than somewhere really hot by the beach. So you don't really have a true reference point as to how your own compare.

OP I have asked my adult sons and my VERY hot 🥵personal trainer this question in the past and they all say noooooooo. They don’t even notice or if they do they think all aspects of a naked woman they fancy are hot. The dimples and blobby bits. The rounded lower tum. The wobbly bubbly bits. All good.

No

Men love looking at the nude female body: they don’t judge but feel fortunate to see it. You have absolutely nothing to worry about. You’re worrying unnecessarily. Be confident. He’ll be delighted.

Tattoo? No. Be as nature intended which is beautiful.

I work in an industry where I see women in their underwear every day and I can honestly say that I have seen many different stretch marks. And lots of them are way more dramatic than yours!
He isn’t daft, and few men actually want someone who looks like a supermodel. As others have said, confidence is key to attractiveness, fake it til you make it.
I remember being so nervous the first time I went with someone after I’d had a c section. We had history from teenage years so he had seen the ‘before’. He couldn’t have cared less.

'These are lines of life.'

Than you all for giving me a good wake up call! ❤️

It was very much needed, as I’ve been spiralling with my thoughts and feeling terrible about myself.

Any man fortunate enough to get a woman he likes into bed is not going to complain.

You have lovely skin too! I have stretch marks AND a spotty arse 😁

Ooh you have similar to me and I have always thought ive got off quite lightly!
He will be so distracted by the fact he has a naked woman in his bed he will not be focusing on them, and we ALL have them. They are airbrushed out or too far away for us to see or blurred out by photo lenses or covered up, but we all have them!

I know it's hard OP. I used to worry about mine. I don't date anymore so worry less.

I got a ton during puberty on my breasts and some less noticeable on my hips, inner thighs, bum. The ones on my breasts bothered me alot and like you I probably did the low light thing or used sexy undies to divert attention.

One bloke said in all serious 'you don't have any, how would you know' after I said Bio oil dosen't work for stretchmarks (an ad was on tv about it). I was actually speechless and just stopped myself saying anything. We had sex in a car once in the middle of the day so how he could think I didn't have them is beyond me but he honest didn't.

Another (when asked) said yes he noticed them but a beautiful car with a scratch is still a beautiful car. (I was too scared to ask him but what if the car has a zillion scratches.....)

In my experience men are usually fretting about something to do with them. Be it short/thin penis size or yellow teeth or missing toenails.

And like someone else said if he rejects you then he wasn't worth keeping anyway.

Hope that helps - from a woman with no children but lots of stretchmarks!

p.s. oh and I'm in the process of losing weight just now and it seems a few (alot) more are joining the party. Not much I can do about it although I am still hopeful that my stomach might remain free of them but not counting on it.

I came to romance late. I was concerned. My mate told me not to draw attention to my perceived imperfections. I never did. Release your inner goddess OP.

Mine are like that and my boyfriend loves me. Don't worry. Embrace your natural self. He'll love you anyway.

I developed stretch marks on my thighs/bum after a massive growth spurt in my teens… the insecurity I had over these scars blighted my 20’s and made me so insecure… I hated to show my body in swimwear and to a man. I, too, never met/saw anyone who I thought had stretch marks as bad as mine. However, I’m now in my early 40’s with a few extra stretch marks, after having children, and I don’t give a f**k! It makes me sad for the young woman I was, that wasted so much time worrying about imperfections that are perfectly normal. I’ve finally reached a place where I like and accept my body… it’s just a shame it’s taken 20 odd years but better late than never! Your bum and thighs look amazing… don’t hide in the dark!

Men do not care. Like literally do not care. They’re surprisingly well adjusted in this area considering their lack of understanding and tact when it comes to other things.

if a woman has a spot, they think…nothing in particular. If they have stretchmarks they think…nothing in particular. If you get one who says ewww your body is gross, they know what they’re doing. Because any nice normal guy just thinks nothing in particular.

your stretch marks aren’t out of the ordinary btw and honestly he knows you have kids! He’s going to expect some stretchmarks. Just tell him you don’t like them much and then you can stop being awkward even if you do cover up. Also, men are just excited to be getting sex when it comes to the point you’re taking your trousers off.

Please don't hide your body or he ashamed of it op! If he likes you he's not going to care!

I have horrendous stretch marks all over my stomach from pregnancies, and one of the most liberating moments I have had in a long while came when I was on holiday this summer and decided I just wanted to feel the sun on my stomach and wear a bikini. Sod the fact that it looks like a deflated balloon.

So I fucking did. I wore the bikini. It felt great. Fucking great.

Your body is not an apology! (Title of a book, I forget the author).

You can make a thing of it. When I got together with my partner I walked him through the different bits of me that I dislike, ie. Slipping down my knickers to show my stretch marks, revealing a mole at the top of my thigh, etc etc. His tongue was practically lolling and eyes popping out. He didn't care a jot about any of my apparent flaws and instead found the whole display incredibly erotic and sexy.

Honestly this is the best explanation!