Online dating - very upset

[Lizzie67384]

Hey,

So I met a guy, seemed really nice we hit it off - went on multiple dates then did the deed, didn’t hear anything from him so messaged him and basically said ‘I presume you’re not interested’ he messaged back but was being off. I stupidly said that I felt we had a connection and he replied and said ‘did we? Ok lol’

just feel so hurt - if he wasn’t interested why couldn’t he say that in a nice way 🤣😩 guess I’m just looking for a hand hold x

Manners cost nothing!

Hahaha, that would have been ace!!

The way he replied says more about him than anything you msgd.
Chin up, move on , you're worth 100xmore than the thick sleaze ball.

Thanks xx

I’ve totally given up online dating since reading Jennie Young Burned Haystack Dating on Facebook and Instagram. No one would get past my now very strict filters. I was getting fed up with it anyway.

That is brilliant ♥️

I'm so sorry, that's awful. 8 dates is a fair amount of time as well. When I was at university ( this was before the internet existed ), I had a few experiences of men being really into me, but once we'd had sex they didn't want to know, and it was so bewildering and upsetting. I wish I had some good advice, but I really don't get why so many men are like this. With hindsight were there ANY clues he might act like this?

The only consolation is that at least you know what an arse he is now, rather than wasting months or even years of your life on him. Small consolation, I know. Bloody men! Hugs. X

Of course you felt a connection. He deliberately manipulated you in order to get sex. He knows full well that if you didn’t feel a connection then you wouldn’t have sex with him. Men like this are scum. Total lack of empathy.

Thanks hun xx

I can’t think of any but I am really questioning myself now, so maybe there were and I didn’t notice/overlooked them?!

ah sorry to hear about your experiences too :( x

Same 😅

Horrible isn’t it! X

Ooo this sounds interesting? I’ll have a look at this!

Please share him on those ‘are we dating the same guy’ pages so others can be aware of him.

What a jerk

Good idea, I will do!

Yes, warn others off. Not me because I’m not looking, but his next victims.

@PennyParticularoh I love that FB group!

It’s great ♥️

I don’t get men like this. Yes they probably only wanted sex, and got it. But if they stay nice they will probably get more sex! Why be cold or ghost after they have managed to get it once?

Because they want to move on to the next victim. They enjoy the whole process of ‘fuck n chuck’ as they delightfully call it. Maybe they even get a little ego boost if they see that the woman is upset. It’s really toxic.

These men shouldn’t be on dating sites. It’s not the appropriate medium for this type of behaviour and is really harmful towards people genuinely looking for a relationship. There should be better ways of shaming them.

They don’t want it with the same woman.

Because it’s a game to them. They have no respect for women. They’re online dating, there’s plenty more where OP came from, and all the women he meets are unlikely to know each other.

It gives men like him a power trip to know they can successfully con women into liking them enough to sleep with them. They’re unlikely to ever have a successful commited relationship because they’re emotionally unavailable and repugnant.

OLD is just the perfect vehicle to allow this kind of shitty behaviour to happen more these days, especially for physically attractive men.

There’s a saying that the only thing better than 🐱 is new 🐱 sorry to be rude but these men aren’t looking for regular sex with the same woman they like new and exciting experiences it’s the thrill of the chase and they have no intention of sticking with one woman regular sex or not, just on to the next.

If he has the cheek of messaging again, pretend you’re up for going to his, then don’t turn up or cancel last minute because actually the sex was rubbish.
Petty I know I know, sometimes they need a taste of their own medicine.

Most guys OLD are truly awful, you’re not alone, I’ve been put off ever going back on there.

I’d be tempted to say… ‘oh you’re a charmer as well as a crap shag’ but in reality just block the idiot.. honestly, what a vile person.