Relationship Counselling - Who do we go for?

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DH and I have decided to go for some together.

DH has specifically said he wants a professional who is active and not someone who just sits there, listens and reiterates what we've just said. We've had that before and we felt the woman was just lending us her room and was acting like a tape recorder.

Are there counsellors out there who are more actively involved in the process of getting things sorted? If so, what do I need to look for in terms of Yellow Pages etc.. . .

Many thanks.

Sounds as though you've had humanistic/person centered counselling in the past?

I'm not 100% certain but I think Relate are less reflective and more inclined to challenge and strategise - ring and find out?

DH and I have just finished last session with relate and they were great, counsellor was brilliant and really probed and dug deep about a lot of things and got us to do a lot of thinking, worthwhile trying them and if you are not happy with the counsellor then you can change, good luck

Was also going to suggest Relate,havn't used them myself but have heard great things about them.

Hi, just browsing around and saw this thread. I can definitely recommend Relate. The counsellor has been really helpful and though-provoking and challenging, rather than just reflective. The experience has helped DP & I to really reassess our relationship in a positive way. We are so much happier now than before!

The main thing is that you are both keen to go to counselling, as that is the first hurdle for many people.

Good luck and I hope you get the positive results you both want.