If you don't live with your DP, do you do this?

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As a full adult, do you send good morning and goodnight texts, ( WA) to your partner?

It’s a no here. Husband regularly works away and will check in when he can. Depending on where he is we can go 2/3 days without contact, but generally he will try and call most days or send a message. I never contact him as he’s at work. Each to their own, but I’d hate to be constantly messaged throughout the day and vice versa.

You don't live with your husband?

1. I’m in a civil partnership with my partner and we don’t live together (he lives down the road).
2. It’s a daft distinction to make anyway!

Me and DP were seeing each other for 15 years before we lived together. At that time he was in his mid 40's and I had just turned 50.....a bit old to be calling ourselves "boyfriend and girlfriend" don't you think?

Fully fledged professional adult here and yes we do. We speak on the phone daily before bed too if we not together. Sometimes for hours, sometimes a quick goodnight. For the record I also refer to him as my partner despite only being together less than a year as having a 50 odd year old boyfriend just sounds awful.

I missed any question regarding whether you are a professional or not?

and definitely missed the question regarding how “fledged” you are as a professional! 😆

No. I don’t really understand why people do this. What do you gain from it aside from having yet another thing to do in the morning? I’ve dated men who did it and it came across as a bit clingy/needy to me. Maybe I’m just not romantic!

Maybe it is a romantic thing? I don't know. I love romance. That knock on the door and seeing a delivery of flowers from him. He gave me a friendship bracelet recently that cost nothing, but he said the colours reminded him of me.

My partner last night called me at 11pm (it was midnight in France where he was working) just so he could wish me a goodnight and a good sleep. The video call only lasted 10 mins, but it was good to see his face.

This morning he messaged me before he went to work to say he loved me and hoped I'd had a good sleep.

I personally adore it. We don't get to message during the day when he is away as he is pulling 15hr days in a plant where phones aren't allowed, so our morning and evening messages are important to me.

Of course I do, but he can regularly be away for 2/3 weeks at a time.

We say hello every morning. Used to send goodnight messages but don't often anymore.
Been together 5 years.

How is that in any way relevant to the OP's question then?.

You live together. Sometimes he's away with work which makes it tricky to stay in contact.

Hardly the same as a couple who are living their normal lives - not travelling for work with all the extra complexity that brings - but in different homes. And who have never lived together so don't have that sense of a nice little break from the routine when one is away.

Yes often but not always. No biggie either way…

Possibly in the military, on an oil rig, in construction work.

shock horror people can be married and their work takes them away from home or they lead a non-conventional life!

I live with my DH but we are apart often due to work. Together 24 years, we still send good morning/good night texts when not together.

I live with my DP but if I’m away for work I sometimes send a goodnight message but not always. Same for him.

It depends on how you interpret it. When my husband is away, we are technically not living together albeit temporarily. When your husband/wife/partner is away for what adds up to 4/5 months per year it is not a nice little break from routine.

Thank you for all your responses. Its so interesting how others live their lives.

Sorry for radio silence, back to back overtime and I kind of forgot about coming back to this.

I dont live with my partner, we've been together on and off for 2 and a half years. I have teen and young adult dc, plus gdc that live with me.

I'm not a text all day kind of person. My partner is, she needs to check in on and off all day, always sends good morning, good night, I love you texts throughout every day and I don't, nor do I feel the need to but I feel like I should, so I posted to see how others manage this difference in relationship styles.

We live 6 minutes drive away from each other and see each other a few times a week, usually during the day.