If you don't live with your DP, do you do this?

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As a full adult, do you send good morning and goodnight texts, ( WA) to your partner?

I start work at 6am and i'm definitely not a morning person so I'll be a good couple of hours into my shift before I think about any kind of morning greetings.

Goodnights are a bit hit and miss. It doesnt bother me and if i'm stuck into a book or series it can be late before I look at my phone. If I receive one obviously that prompts me to send a response.

Dp and I sent each other good morning messages and either chatted on the phone before bed or at least texted. We still do this now- I'm away from home and we message through the day as well. Just if something makes me think of her or if we will say what meals we are having.
We both have adhd. I do get the out of sight out of mind thing but somehow we are in each other's minds.

I do think partner is sometimes appropriate. Dp and I were together but long distance for 6 years and for the last year of that, we owned a house together.

When we are apart which is probably more than 30% of the time due to work, my husband texts me the second he wakes up, all through the day and then into the evening until bedtime.

I'm not a great text person, so I sometimes don't reply all day but I appreciate that he always wants to be in contact after all these years.

Yeah of course if we are apart (shift work). I also send him videos of 2 year old DS saying good morning/good night

How people who think they have adhd?

Sometimes it feels relevant.

Of course!

Thats very cute.

We did when we first got together. It probably wore off over time? I can't remember if we stopped before we moved in together.

After nine years and no plans to live together we definitely don't bother with goodnight texts. It has just dropped off over time but like a PP I'm not lovey dovey either!

How about you describe your relationship the way you prefer to, and let others do the same? Who are you to make the rules for others?

No. Definitely not the good morning texts unless either of us had something important on that day - might send a good luck or let me know who it goes message.

Goodnight, sometimes but only really if he hadn't been in much communication during the day.

Over 9 years together but not living together, and we send goodnight texts every day. They’re not especially lovey dovey, although we always say “love you”. Apart from anything else, it’s a handy way of essentially saying “I’m going to bed now, so if you message me I won’t be replying”.

Over 2.5 years together apart and we most definitely do - even if its super late and I know he'll be asleep, I've still wa goodnight. And in the morning we'll share wordle! As I know we're both wfh tomorrow guarantee not just a few wa in the day, there will be a video call too before our respective kids get back from school.

DH and I were long distance while dating (late 20s), spent two weekends per month together for the first two years.

No, we did not do this.

But we did email each other most (working) days.

We rarely spoke on the phone either!

I don't like to feel suffocated and like my own space, so goodmorning and goodnight messages every day would have been a bit much for me lol.

I did with one of my ex BFs… he ended up cheating on me. Never with my last ex…we didn’t like each other like that 😂

We do in the morning but rarely text goodnight, chances are that one of us is either out or has fallen asleep on the sofa. Together 7 years, and see each other probably every other day. Texts during the day usually say I’ll tell you about bla bla bla when I see you, it helps my memory!

Not necessarily. Dh and I lived on opposite sides of the world for a few years when dating.

Wouldn’t have sent a good morning message because wasn’t morning for the other, but Dh probably would have said good night before he went to bed, basically as a ‘I’m signing off for the night now’ message. It would have been mid afternoon for me.

Yes, every day. Good morning and good night. Been together five years.

We’ve been living together over 3 years and whichever of us is awake first sends the other a sweet message to wake up to

Always. I have been with my partner for over a year, and even if he is working in a random time zone and had to get up at 5am to head to the factory - he always sends me a good morning message. He says he hopes I've slept well, that he is thinking of me and loves me. In the evenings we chat (time zone allowing) and he always wishes me a good nights sleep.

He tends to send a morning one and I reply. It's usually him that sends first because of his schedule (much earlier start than me, unpredictable length of time driving, etc). Evenings are more unpredictable due to hobbies and other stuff that's on.

Yes, always, for the last 12 years.

Yes always. Occasionally he forgets the good night ones because he’s working late or he’s fallen asleep and I always feel a little sad because I miss him. We often don’t talk much during the day because we are both busy but first thing/last thing is important to me.

Yes every day

Best friend, not partner but yes.

Both live alone and have lifestyles and work that involve a lot of travel, so it's nice to have someone send you a 'You alive?' text in the morning, and then a bit of a day catchup and a goodnight at the end of the day.

During the pandemic I had several female friends who I'd do this with; this one happens to be male.