If you don't live with your DP, do you do this?

[Brunocatmon]

As a full adult, do you send good morning and goodnight texts, ( WA) to your partner?

No I don’t. It gives me the ick.

always goodnight, not specifically a "good morning" sort of message but often an early message (he's often up well before me) about how we slept, or how the gym/run that morning was etc. It's probably rare that we don't message before we get to work.

Yes absolutely.

Doesn’t matter if one of us is away for work, a holiday, etc we make sure we start and end our day checking in with each other.

My Mum and Stepdad didn't live together even after they married. So is husband allowed? Or should it still be boyfriend?

I was wondering about what to call my man. We're mid 50s and don't live together but are in a committed relationship. Boyfriend sounds too young at our age.

And no, we don't do texts saying night night but we do share our wordle scores every morning and chat if we have any news. We might text in the day if either of us has something interesting to tell the other. I find mindless what are you having for your tea type texting dull though.

Yes we do. Together 4 years. Only if we haven’t spent the night together. And we are kind of full adults - 47 and 50

No.

I see my boyfriend twice a week.

I do my thing, he does his thing and we do our thing.

Yes we do. Not first thing though, about 9.30 once kids dropped off and settled into work.

Always check in before bed and say goodnight, chat a bit about the day - either on a call or text.

What does (WA) mean @Brunocatmon?

We've been together over six years and don't live together. He sends a 'morning' message every day. I respond to it, but think it's a bit pointless as we don't message or speak to each other at all during the rest of the day. It's a bit like a ping to see if I'm alive, I suppose 😂 (I've had cancer). The whole lack of any real communication has put a dampener on my feelings, to be honest. He doesn't remember if I have a hospital appointment that day, or if he does he doesn't wish me well for it (like I said, have had cancer recently, so many appointments still). Just that 'morning x' message every bloody day.

No. Both like our freedom though he’s much better at checking in than me. If I felt obligated to do that every morning and night would be a chore… it’s what works for every couple though…

DH and I can go several days without texting or talking. He's not always contactable and so we are used to it! Been married for 15 years.

Yes, I've never woken up without a message from DP to say good morning. It's lovely and it's a small thing in a sea of big things that makes me know I'm loved.

I sometimes prefer a text goodnight to a call because I'm too tired, but that's fine.

No plans ever to live together? Or just not imminently @DontBeBlueBeARainbow

Yes sent messages in morning and evening when not living together. But I wouldn’t think anything less of a relationship if I heard they… didn’t!

Ignore me @DontBeBlueBeARainbow
None of my bloomin business!!

I always find these threads pointless. Like the one where the OP never ever says they love their DP.

you do you, if you don't WA your DP, if your lifestyle and work pattern doesn't allow it, there's no law against it and what does it matter if other people WA or text 10 times a day. It just becomes yet another source of needless judging and scrutiny of other people's lives.

When I wasn’t living with a partner, I would send occasional good night texts. Every one is different, I personally would find daily good morning and good night texts suffocating

people with ADHD tend not to miss people and generally struggle with regular texting so I would say it’s relevant

No, together 6 years and don’t even message every day let alone morning & night.

I’ve been with DP over 3 years - it’s not that we don’t want to live together, we just can’t at the moment. We are together 9 nights out of 14. We sign cards from both of us, we are invited places as a couple, he cooks and I wash up. I do my fair share of domestic tasks when I stay with him. We are partners - boyfriend makes us sound like we are still at school.

Yes every day, together 5 years, pushing 50, won't be living together for some time due to dc.

When dh travelled for business he always called me, usually before going to bed unless time difference was incompatible. Before we lived together generally we’d call mid evening but texting isn’t something I do regularly as it doesn’t come naturally, I’m a phoning person - I do use text but more to say fetch milk!

Yes :-)

Oh please don't start with this. These days it's very common for people in their 30/40/50s to be in years long relationships with full commitment but kids growing up and a desire not to blend / step parent or just having been burnt in previous divorces mean people are much more autonomous and cautious about combining finances or risking that autonomy. It doesn't mean they are not emotionally supportive, reliant on each other and in it fully.

Oh to answer the question, no we don't message routinely, but usually check in once a day at least. If it's mid week and we're both busy we may not.