Oh Bananabeau you will be missed.

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I'm so sorry to see your post has been removed. You will be missed.
I refreshed my app daily in the hopes of seeing positive updates from you, and I'm sad you felt you needed to remove your post altogether.
I wish you well in your future and I sincerely hope you can fulfill your dreams.

You deserve to be happy.
💗

@bananabeau If you are unable to use the phone, could you email your employer or a friend or relative and ask them to call the Police on your behalf. This is kidnapping and is a VERY serious offence.

@bananabeau I'm a bit worried about you now.

You're experiencing abuse.

If you can, get to your GP for a "follow-up appointment" and tell them what's going on.

@bananabeau Yesterday was such a grim day for you. I really hope there have been some glimmers of light today.

Banana if you're in work can't you start the ball rolling from there? Contact the police from work and women's aid?

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I think they both WFH.

@bananabeau if you call 999 then 55 it’s an indication you can’t speak. Your call will be transferred to police and they will locate your phone, somebody will be sent out to your address.

Hope you’re ok 💐

I really hope that she’s able to read these messages and the advice and be safe soon. Prayers and rooting for you x

I hope so too. 🙏🏼

Banana, I really hope you can take steps to go to the police. Wish I could send you strength.

You're physically on your own, but you have a lot of women supporting you here. Take strength from that, lovely, and keep going. There IS help out there, please reach for it.

Just checking in @bananabeau . So many of us are thinking of you and rooting for you.

You are not alone!

@bananabeau I hope you are seeing these messages and are okay? Can you take some of this advice or do you feel strong enough to contact your GP or speak to someone at work? Sending love and good thoughts. We care x

I am actually worried that her husband has ramped up the control and abuse tbh, that it’s escalated.

Same. Or worse.

We all want Banana to escape, and understandably our way of helping / giving support is to keep suggesting people and organisations she can contact, and encouraging her to take action. We also all know it's a long, arduous, difficult, slow and very dangerous process to leave an abusive and controlling partner...

Trouble is, by repeatedly urging Banana to contact police etc, there is a risk that instead of being a place of support, this thread becomes a source of shame that she can't yet do what we all want her to do.

Maybe we should ease off the pressure to take action and instead hold space for her. Perhaps by gently helping her to unpick the terrifying emotional and mental landscape she has so recently been catapulted into? Or even just chatting about 'normal' everyday stuff?

Banana - Please don't feel you have to justify yourself to us. Everyone here just wants to support you. You're not alone.

Right, I'm off to cook a ham. I've only ever done it once before, many years ago. Wish me luck!

@DahliaBlooming agree. Abuse can weaken and cripple you .. too scared to take actions sometimes feeling too weak to do anything.

@bananabeau look after yourself. No pressure here. Do what you need to when you feel able. There is light at the end of the tunnel x

Hey @bananabeau . Just checking in. No need to reply if you don’t want to, just to let you know I’m thinking of you and for a chat.

I had some biopsy results this week and they were nowhere near as bad as I feared so feel like I’m coming back to life a bit. I’m also babysitting my 5 year old nephew later this afternoon for the first time (from my DH’s much younger half sister), so I’m a bit nervous, but he’s adorable and there’s always wine at the end of it. I hope you are regaining your strength and am here if you would like talk about anything at all, as are others. Caroline x

Hope all ok Bananabeau

Oof, I am not comfortable with the silence. I really hope she’s ok. 🥺

Same. It’s very worrying.

Oh no. I hope she is okay but it’s a while now since she posted. This is very worrying. Very worrying.

I've been thinking the same. Given how she seemed scared and really down on her last post and how long ago that was, I am really worried about her wellbeing.

Posting in solidarity and concern. @bananabeau wr all hope you are ok x

@bananabeau Another one concerned for you. This is your life & you owe us nothing. But hoping you are safe.
Take care.