Ending a relationship over an 8 year old and his mother.

[seahorseraven123]

Hi there. I know it sounds ridiculous but this story is exactly what that title says.

Ive been in this relationship for 7 years. And in that time all I've received is abuse from the child and his mother.

The child is rude , argumentative, has no respect for me and the language that comes from him is appalling. Now his mother is saying you don't have to listen to her , she's just your dad's girlfriend etc.

Im at my wits end. Im so relieved when he goes to hers on a Friday but by the Sunday, I dread it. The mood in the house changes and he brings his attitude back home with him.

Ive tried to have conversations with Dad , basically explaining how im feeling. I get the usual" I'll speak to him" "its going to take time ".

I don't know what else to say. We have a 2 year old together so im trying really hard to just keep it all to myself bit I'm suffering.

I let them move in instead of staying with partners mum , they have control over the house , Im just numb.

Any advice would be grateful.

Thank you

Tbh nothing wrong with staying together not living together works much better. Hows things going coparenting x

Rough , trying to keep it strictly about the baby but hes trying to find out information to see if im seeing people and trying to discuss us x

Rebound or not, it was a horribly toxic situation that you're well out of - so you can see what people are saying, can't you?

Stay strong and dont let them back in!

Four people in a one bedroom flat is ridiculous anyway, surely he understands that?

He told you that she cheated. If he was any kind of decent man then he'd have stayed out of the dating game for a while and concentrated on his baby. And if you had decency, you'd have stayed away from a man with a tiny baby. Who knows what's going on in a relationship when a baby comes along.

Rebounds where men have left a family (and especially a young baby) and then jump straight into the next relationship often feel that they need to stick with the rebound to prove that he didn't just walk off from his young family without a backwards glance for a fling.

There seems to have been a lot of strife for a long time
and it’s not getting better
it’s got worse
and will continue to get worse …
How could it possibly get any better when the parents are like they are ????

either step up and try and tackle the behavioral problems with the young lad / step son or extract yourself -
can’t see any workable middle ground here

Well, I for one feel sorry that your relationship has ended. Maybe just a little space will do you both good? Let the dust settle a little and then have a chat? It sounds like there was a lot of pressure all around and sometimes when we are close to it, you cant see the wood for the trees.
I'm sure this is a very difficult time for you all - no relationship breaking down is plain sailing. It hurts and you feel like crap for a while.
Sending you a hug and a piece of cake that I have just made (to keep my mind off my own 'man troubles' )🍰