My husband left me, now I'm having sex with strangers

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A week ago my husband sat me down and explained to me how he no longer loves me, has met someone he works with in office and is about to pursue things with her. This has floored me. I thought it was a joke but he's now moved out. Thankfully we don't have kids.
I'm so angry at him, he had the audacity to tell me he'll be hurt if I got with anyone else, I hate him so much.
This weekend gone I got together with my girls for a night out and ended up in bed with a stranger. We had the most amazing sex but I was just thinking about him.

I don't know if having sex with strangers is the way to get over him but I'm looking to try again and see what happens.

What would you do if you were in my position?

I'd catch my breath and forget about men until I had my new life sorted.

Which will probably take quite some time.

But we're all different.

I'd swear off men for a good long while. But I am boring.

Probably the same as you for a couple of weeks. But I hope he wore a condom? The thing about sex with a stranger is you have no idea what their sexual health status is.

I think after the initial week or two I wouldn’t want to continue getting into bed with anyone. I’d probably want a complete break from men for a while.

i think you should thank your lucky stars you don’t have kids with your dh and hopefully you can now move on and find someone far better in the future, if you want to consider marriage and kids

It was his stupid comment that spurred me on.

Don’t do anything because of what you dh said! That’s a rubbish reason to jump into bed with someone. Just have sex because you genuinely want to.

I did when I split with husband number 1.
Stranger sex, it was the self esteem boost that I needed at the time.
Wear a condom, don't get attached to them. Only do it for you, not to get back at ex.

I hear you @gattocattivo but I'm glad I did. It felt freeing and although I was thinking of DH when this new guy was giving me oral, it was a "fuck you" to him. I know that will soon pass and I'll stop thinking of him but I'm in that place where I've convinced myself the more men I sleep with the quicker I'll get over him.

So he's free to pursue a new relationship but would be hurt if you did? Cheeky bastard! I'd tell him to fuck off and if you actually want to have no strings sex with a couple of strangers then go for it. He's got no say in what you do with your life anymore. He forefit that right when he trashed your marriage for another woman

It's actually quite common to get under another man. If it gives you the dopamine then why not.

Long term though it might feel a bit shit. Just keep an eye on yourself.

Cheeky fucker sticking you in a cupboard like that if he feels like.coming back.

That's exactly how he made it seem, he left the door open where I was left thinking he might come back.
That's why I'm so angry at the arsehole

Don't be stupid op.

You're husband didn't know someone was giving you oral so it was hardly a fuck you moment.

Lick your wounds of course, but not a strangers balls.

Well that's exactly what he meant though. He would prefer to keep you unshagged just in case his new squeeze doesn't work out. Entitlement.

Sleeping with this guy was still about your ex though.

I think maybe you need to start thinking about yourself & what you want, rather than him and what he doesn't want you to do.

If you're enjoying the sex and staying safe then as an adult, you make your own decisions and it's no one else's business. I think it can be true (in some situations) that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else. However, if the only reason that you're doing it is to get back at him in some way or you're desperately trying to move on then it might not be good for you and it could leave you feeling empty afterwards.

You know what op if you enjoyed it good for you fuck what anyone has to say about it.
Get a divorce starting and have as many ons you bloody want .
No strings attached no drama.
Get back what your been missing out on..
In due time he will become a person thats not important to you.
Dont have him back no matter what. For what he as told you he wants you to be his stand in when it all fucks up.
Dont let him do that to you divorce and live life freely.

I've seen so many threads on here where OP begins a new life and is just getting over the ex when he waltzs back in and asks to go back to normal, almost like nothing happened but ex says he made such a huge mistake and he's sorry and blah blah. Don't be his back up option. Cut contact and forget him now.

Sorry OP, I agree with this. Why not wait until you meet someone you really like? Respect yourself. Your OH sounds like an arsehole though, you are well shot of him.

Listen - he dumped you and broke your marriage vows. So if you wanna screw your way into obscurity you do it. Everyone telling you to swear off men or have self respect - YOU DO YOU! Wanna eat ice cream and cry? Cool! Wanna go wild and have casual sex with strangers? Also cool. None of your husbands business. He’s gone.

Yep, this
If a man slept with a woman after his wife fucked off with another man, he wouldn't be told to find some self respect.
Do what you want. Just don't take back your ex when he realises the grass isn't always greener. Go live your life however you fancy

Im veering towards all the posters who say fuck it and have sex with other guys if I want.
I'm going to do exactly that, I'm enjoying it. I've only slept with one guy so far since he dumped me and looking forward to the next one and the other one.

I'll deal with the come down when it comes but so far I just want to have fun even though it initially started with me wanting revenge sex.

I’m glad it was a good experience. Nothing worse than doing it for revenge and it’s not as good as the person you are trying to get over.

I’m petty so would definitely have revenge sex. As long as the men you choose are respectful, make you feel desired and can give you a good night I don’t see the problem. But keep checking in with yourself and only do it if it feels right. Remember you can back out at anytime for any reason.

I would be smirking inside every time I spoke to him thinking about the good session I just had. Knowing there are other men out there who can make you feel good definitely takes the shine off him when he’s being a complete prick.

There’s a saying: “the quickest way to get over a guy is to get under someone else”.

This is how I get over relationships. It’s how a lot of women get over relationships. As long as you are safe and you’re not harming yourself then you shouldn’t feel bad about what you did.

Are you going to meet up with this guy again? It’s so hard to find men that are good in bed.

Take allways care of yourself as a principle. If you like one night stands do it, we are no one to judge it. However, do it because you like it. No because you think that will make an effect on him, because of a false felling of freedom etc. Just if you like it. Some people is happy with casual sex with strangers some no. Think about the real anwers of why you are doing it and act accordingly.

Shag away IMO

Stay safe and do what makes you happy. He has no say in your life anymore.

You are lucky that there are no children so when things are sorted out, you will be able to block him and pretend he doesn't share space on Earth with you.