Hi all,
Looking for some perspective because something happened yesterday that’s left me feeling uncomfortable.
I was tidying the bathroom cupboard and noticed that some condoms were missing from a box DH and I keep tucked away in the back. Not locked up but not something you’d expect the kids to be going through. I mentioned it to DH and without missing a beat, he said it must have been DS (14). No hesitation, no questions, just said it in a way that felt like he’d already decided.
DS does have a girlfriend, but they’re still very young. They hang out at ours sometimes, usually in the living room or garden. I haven’t seen or heard anything to suggest that things are physical between them yet, and DS still seems pretty young in himself. Of course it’s not impossible - I’m not naïve - but something about DH’s reaction really threw me.
It wasn’t just that he thought it might be DS. It was the certainty and the tone. No curiosity, no concern, just blame. It felt oddly defensive and a bit cold. And now I can’t stop wondering - is it DS? Or is DH covering for something else? I hate that my mind even goes there, but the whole exchange didn’t sit right.
I haven’t spoken to DS. I don’t want to accuse him if he’s done nothing wrong, especially over something so personal. But I also don’t want to ignore this if it is something that needs addressing - whether that’s DS needing support or something else entirely.