It was our silver Wedding Anniversary and I bought my husband a Tag heuer watch. Which he loves. He asked me what I wanted and I said memory of place I always wanted to visit. Rome, Iceland. Etc. This was at the beginning of the year. ( I'm allergic to jewellery, so pointless getting anything like that)! As the mouths went by and the watch had Been bought 5 months before the Anniversary.. My husband said we have no funds to go away to Iceland or Rome and booked our usual self catering cottage in Wales and Said that will be my gift. Slightly disappointed, I made the best of the trip away and did enjoy it, as I usually do every year. Our anniversary came and got chocolates and sparking wine and a lovely card.
A few days later my husband says, "oh I'm off to trial a new motorcycle." Thinking of changing his 2019 one.
Oh OK.. He's looked at a saving account he had for years and the money would come out of that. I encourage him to have what he wants while he can. So wasn't unhappy with that, but felt cheated in my memory holiday and no suggestion of one in the furture. He has done this on my 40th birthday and recently my 50th too.. In fact I can't use the suggested pressie ( insta 360 camera) as ihe had such an argument, I nearly split from him. He has big insecurities about money, he has ptsd and it manifests itself into this. He buys himself stuff, drone, bits for the bike etc but never me. I feel I can't touch our joint account and give him almost the mortgage money each month plus get the shopping. Even if I can't afford it, he wants the money I'm self employed. He also has anger issues, so have become a passive person and just except things, but lately it makes my heart sink and I just feel unloved. Also concerned for my future with him. Am I being unfair.