What happened to TwinklingPotato?!

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@TwinklingPotato I was following your journey and the thread reached it’s 40 page limit and I can’t find a follow on. What happened? I hope you’re safe and sound and loving your new life

I hope they're OK too.

I'm here!

Thank you so much for checking! My WiFi switches on tomorrow, I'm on my phone until then (I've bought myself a laptop to use at home 😁), sorry for not updating.

I still haven't had any further contact from him, just his mum asking of I was ok, I kept my reply simple.

I'm settling in slowly. Still find the silence unnerving at times, but the peace that accompanies it is overwhelmingly welcome.

I've bought myself a few treats, got some things from Freecycle. I bought myself a Habitat lamp that I've liked for ages, but he said no to because it wasn't "his style", now it's on my windowsill all happy and yellow! I've put up curtain poles, measured for blinds (Which arrive Wednesday), and moved the fridge across the kitchen. All things I wouldn't have been trusted to do before. My fridge is full of food I like, too! All I need to buy are some nice mugs and glasses, and some other accessories, but all in good time.

Thank you again for caring xx

It’s so good to hear from you @TwinklingPotato! Your new home sounds absolutely perfect and I’m glad you haven’t heard from him. Long may that continue.

@TwinklingPotato excellent news. Thanks for updating. Best wishes for your future 🙂

So glad to hear you’re doing well, you are an inspiration and deserve so much more than what you have endured x

So glad Ive found this thread, was thinking about you all weekend! Really happy to hear you are settling in and making your home cosy 😊

You're all so kind and lovely!

I'm at work today, so will be plugging myself in when I get home and waiting for my broadband to activate. Other than a kettle, it's the only electrical think I've bought for the house - I should get a TV, too, not had one of those for almost a decade! I also get very excited on Saturday when I baked myself a potato and heated the beans in the microwave - they were banned in the house because of the radiation...

Honestly, every day there is at least one thing that makes me think "I couldn't do that before".

The stories and support I had on my thread, as sad and upsetting as they were, were such a push for me. The women who have been through so much more than I have, they're the inspiring ones.

If anyone reads this or my other thread and is in a similar place, just know that you can do it. Nothing awful will happen, the world won't end. you will sleep better, smile more, and feel lighter xx

So delighted to see this update! I was one of those women you refer to in the other thread but I posted under a different name. I’ve been trawling the relationships board every couple of days hoping to see how you were getting on. Keep enjoying the peace and the yellow lamp! And bloody well done, I am certain that you ARE an inspiration.

Try charity shop for glasses. I’ve got some absolutely Devine ones from our local proper crystal for like £5 a set! They get inundated when old people with no family to pass it to die which is tragic as they probably kept it in the box / cabinet and pulled out once or twice. I like to think I’m giving it new lease of life and use all the time - never save for best!

How about a radio or an Alexa (to play the radio) for when you feel the silence is too much?
So happy to read your updates and you sound as though you really are settling in and making the house your own and your home.

I bought some jam donuts on the way home today. When I got home, I mowed the lawn, then sat on the grass and ate two donuts, washed down with a glass of gin and raspberry lemonade!

I know the novelty will wear off, but right now it feels like I'm a teenager whose parents have gone on holiday and left me home alone for the first time!

I hope everyone is well, and enjoying the sunshine x

Oh, yes - charity shopping tomorrow, and I picked up a radio yesterday!

Enjoy your charity shopping.

Ask on Facebook local pages for tv etc.

Sounds like bliss!

I’m not convinced the novelty will wear off! You were living such a restricted life, and paying through the nose to enable him to control you.

The thing that shocked me most was his refusal to go out if you were there. It will take a long while to get used to freedom.

So glad I spotted this thread, that's lovely news @TwinklingPotato . Be happy and carefree in your new home. You deserve it!

Awww @twinklingpotato this is so lovely!!!

And honestly the novelty doesn't wear off sometimes - I loved every new thing for weeks months even years 😅😅🥰🥰

So glad you are enjoying your newfound freedom!

Fantastic news! Love that update @TwinklingPotato

Oh so glad to hear this update! I’ve been thinking about you, as well. Happy for you, brave soul!

@TwinklingPotato just checking in to ask how you are. Hoping you’re loving life 🫀

Aw thank you!

I actually had the world's biggest armchair delivered today, and I love it. I put some more blinds up, and built the bed for the spare room.

I'm off tomorrow too so going to tidy the garden a bit, and I have permission to put a pond in (if I get round to it!).

Still nothing from my ex, which has surprised me but I'm also relieved. I suspect he's on dating sites (if he hadn't already been anyway), and so that's more exciting than trying to get to me. An odd fizzle out to what I thought was going to be very dramatic..

Hope all is ok in the Mumsnet world xx

@TwinklingPotato so pleased to read your update!
funny we are debating about re-instating a pond that was here previous to us moving in! I love my garden so enjoy the peace it brings.
Really delighted for you and hopefully he keeps away.

@TwinklingPotato how are you getting on now?

Hi! Thank you for asking - I've been blown away by the support I've had.

I'm doing ok, had a few quiet, lonely evenings, but I feel quite settled into my new home. I have everything including all the bits and bobs I couldn't have had before, and am picking some stuff up from my mum's this weekend.

I had a message from him, saying he didn't understand why I'd gone, but that if I ever needed him, just to reach out because "we shared time and he'd never not be there for me".. I didn't reply, of course, and it was by text not WhatsApp, which is unusual for him but perhaps he thought I'd blocked him on WhatsApp..

In the process of looking for somewhere lovely to go on holiday next year :) x