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What happened to TwinklingPotato?!

63 replies

CrownCoats · 14/06/2025 22:00

@TwinklingPotato I was following your journey and the thread reached it’s 40 page limit and I can’t find a follow on. What happened? I hope you’re safe and sound and loving your new life

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myplace · 05/06/2026 19:17

I’m so pleased, and thank you for updating. It’s so scary for women who have to uproot everything in the hope that things can be better, when they are so used to what they have, warts and all. Your chap was a proper erm, unique individual shall we say.

Sandunesandseashells · 06/06/2026 08:37

Yea! Twinkling is now sparkling! So pleased for you x

MMMMMBacon · 06/06/2026 15:18

Wonderful to hear from you OP, so glad the year has gone well, you deserve happiness, peace and joy !

AutumnFroglets · 06/06/2026 15:24

TwinklingPotato · 05/06/2026 15:05

Hi everyone!

Well, it's been a year and I don't think I've ever felt so light and happy!

I have a great new job, new friends, a social life, I feel like I'm becoming who I should have been 13 years ago!

I had a few gnarly messages, I'm sure I'm still the monster, but as far as I'm aware he's moved on now and so I'll just be a conversation piece to build his victim status.

Just wanted to update to give hope to anyone who needs it. It's hard, but it really does get better xx

What a wonderful update! ❤

itsgivingenglishteacher · 06/06/2026 19:48

This is such a brilliant update. Well done @TwinklingPotato, so happy for you.

SliceofTosst · 06/06/2026 22:44

Fantastic news!

I did something similar years ago and every now and again remember how my life is now in comparison.

TwinklingPotato · 08/06/2026 10:38

Thank you all so much!

The support I got here was amazing, and having a space to vent made things so much clearer, just writing it all done made me see the madness of it all.

I wish him well, but he'll never feel as light and untethered as I do now, I'm proud of myself, and grateful to the MN gang for cheering me on!

Floralbloomer · 08/06/2026 11:12

Good for you . By the way how is he funding his hobbies and subscriptions now ?

Crikeyalmighty · 08/06/2026 11:23

TwinklingPotato · 26/06/2025 21:25

Aw thank you!

I actually had the world's biggest armchair delivered today, and I love it. I put some more blinds up, and built the bed for the spare room.

I'm off tomorrow too so going to tidy the garden a bit, and I have permission to put a pond in (if I get round to it!).

Still nothing from my ex, which has surprised me but I'm also relieved. I suspect he's on dating sites (if he hadn't already been anyway), and so that's more exciting than trying to get to me. An odd fizzle out to what I thought was going to be very dramatic..

Hope all is ok in the Mumsnet world xx

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I know that feeling - in my 1st marriage I thought the ramifications would go on for months and months - in reality he had someone else moved in within 3 months and I was simply ‘an ex’ - hard to understand at the time but I’ve since realised when someone new comes along a lot of men get over things very quickly ( and some women too)

TwinklingPotato · 12/06/2026 11:53

@Floralbloomerno idea, I suspect his parents are helping, and I'd be surprised if he's not encouraging another woman to step up and prove she loves him.....
@Crikeyalmightyit's crazy how soon they move on, isn't it, it really shows them for what they are and what they really thought of the relationship

Stilllifes · 12/06/2026 13:06

Crikeyalmighty · 08/06/2026 11:23

I know that feeling - in my 1st marriage I thought the ramifications would go on for months and months - in reality he had someone else moved in within 3 months and I was simply ‘an ex’ - hard to understand at the time but I’ve since realised when someone new comes along a lot of men get over things very quickly ( and some women too)

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I have seen this up close when long married men become widowed.....genuinely astounding.
Barely cold.

Left · 12/06/2026 18:30

Oh wow! I remember your thread but missed the update that you got away. So glad to hear you’re free now 🫶

Youllnevergetabetterbitofbutteronyourknife · 15/06/2026 19:21

@TwinklingPotato I've just re-read your thread from just over a year ago: wow! I'm so pleased you managed to get out ❤️ I'm so pleased you're finally living the life that you deserve. 💐

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