Especially with busy working lives and children, the people who are most active on apps tend to be odd or lacking in social skills or after an ego boost or attention or immediate sex.
Much higher chance of meeting someone weird unfortunately - a lot of the more OK people will either have met someone or not find them comfortable to use....
There's a lot of folk who don't look as good as their photos, or who come across badly in person, or who just want to collect attention from cool people as an ego boost.
I'd say the "great 1/2 date" people are like that....they like role-playing the perfect man/date, but they don't actually want to incorporate someone new into their schedule.
And a friendly attractive woman all dressed up and paying them full attention is a good night out.
I went on a good 1st meet with someone who clearly had no intention of meeting me for a second.
We'd agreed to a second meet after a nice dinner. No sex.
Popped up every so often on WhatsApp. Not sexting but nothing organised so WHY?!!!
Left him on "read" the last time he messaged 🤷🏾♀️. I wasn't putting my life on hold, but actually wish he'd blocked me or been more direct.
You have to take it a social fixed cost if things fizzle out after a few good dates.
I'd say after 1 month of being intensely active on the apps I generally meet someone I'm interested in enough or get fed up so come off them there's no way I can cope with them any longer!
Others prefer to pace themselves over a longer period of time.