Bit of a long one sorry. Me and DP have 3 kids together, he also has 2 from a previous relationship. We’re not married but been together nearly 7 years.
He had a vasectomy in Dec last year, we’d agreed no more babies and tbh 5 between us is more than enough. Everything seemed fine until past couple months when I started getting a weird gut feeling. He’s been spending more and more time at his ex’s when dropping the kids, like going in for coffee or just “having a chat” which wasn’t really a thing before. Then he randomly bought a new expensive aftershave which is v unlike him (he normally uses whatever’s on offer in Asda lol).
Anyway, I asked him outright if anything’s going on and he swore blind no. Fast forward to yesterday and I get a msg from his ex. She says she slept with him and she’s pregnant. She doesn’t know about the vasectomy, so I’m guessing she thinks he’s still fertile.
Idk what to think. Is she lying to stir things up? She’s always been a bit off with me, and I’ve always felt like she never really moved on from him. They split cos she cheated on him (he told me that early on) so it’s not like they were some perfect couple.
But now I’m second guessing everything. Would she really lie about being pregnant?? Or could he have cheated and not told her about the vasectomy? Is it even possible she’s pregnant by him if he had it done over 6 months ago?