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Disappointed in DD

85 replies

princesspadam · 26/05/2025 10:32

She is home for the weekend with her boyf to attend an event.
yesterday we were going out with DPs parents and whilst DP wasn’t here she was moaning about going and said that DPs stepfather was ‘feeble minded’ and had no confidence in his own opinions.

i thought this was such a mean thing to say, i don’t think ive ever described anyone as ‘feeble minded’

they ended up not coming thankfully but i just feel so disappointed in her

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GentleHedgehog · 26/05/2025 19:10

If she's not learned that rather than upset someone (you, which is what she wanted to do) not every opinion needs to be voiced, then life will eventually show her that not everyone will put up with her 'tell it how it is' attitude anyway

Ratisshortforratthew · 26/05/2025 19:16

christ that’s such a mild insult 😂 I’ve said worse about people I actually like!

Supima · 26/05/2025 19:18

If my mother’s reaction to a private comment was to jump on the internet to relay my words and slag me off, I’d be incredibly disappointed in her. I wouldn’t dream of doing anything as nasty and disloyal to my own daughter, who, amazingly, like me, has opinions about things and people and doesn’t need policing by a man if she states them.

Boreded · 26/05/2025 19:29

Supima · 26/05/2025 19:04

Oh and saying someone is being a dick is absolutely an insult!

No it isn’t. It’s a challenge on their behaviour, but it isn’t an insult. you know this, I know this. You are choosing to act stupid in this situation, but that doesn’t make you stupid. I can keep giving analogies, but honestly the good child being bad was as simple and basic it is going to get.

you can choose to accept, or you can be wrong, either way it doesn’t matter to me 🥱

countingthedays945 · 26/05/2025 19:32

Sounds like she was communicating with you in confidence and you’ve splashed it all over Mumsnet. I would be looking at my own standards.

Supima · 26/05/2025 21:09

Boreded · 26/05/2025 19:29

No it isn’t. It’s a challenge on their behaviour, but it isn’t an insult. you know this, I know this. You are choosing to act stupid in this situation, but that doesn’t make you stupid. I can keep giving analogies, but honestly the good child being bad was as simple and basic it is going to get.

you can choose to accept, or you can be wrong, either way it doesn’t matter to me 🥱

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You are behaving like a dick. And a raging hypocrite.

Biropens · 30/05/2025 15:31

princesspadam · 26/05/2025 10:54

She’s late 20s 😱

wtf? Really?

Does she still live at home?

pimplebum · 30/05/2025 15:37

“Oh that’s a bit harsh !”

id rather my daughter felt she could be frank and unfiltered with me , I’d maybe get her to think why he may be like that , how was he bought up etc have a conversation about being compassionate and how your confidence can wain a lot as you get elderly

SheridansPortSalut · 30/05/2025 15:44

Much ado about nothing.

SapporoBaby · 30/05/2025 23:12

She said he was feeble minded… maybe he is? Do you and your daughter not speak honestly together?

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