TLDR
Met a guy online, keeps asking for a close up photo of me smiling, is this weird and am I unreasonable for starting with the ick?
'Met' a guy a few weeks ago on an FB group for a holiday destination we will both be visiting soon (at the same time)...as solo travellers. We've been chatting most days, started off about the island and possibly meeting for a drink/meal or doing some sightseeing together. Things developed a little from there, conversation turned more personal i.e. our ages, jobs, previous relationships etc, until we were messaging constantly.
Everything was going swimmingly, we swapped photos, head shots, and we both liked what what saw, so much so that we talked about possibly meeting up before the holiday and seeing how things go. He's been very respectful all through this, teeny bit of flirting but no sexual comments, good banter, we seem to have the same values and I was enjoying the chat/attention. A couple of days ago he asked for a picture of me really smiling, even though I'm smiling in the 2 pics I've already sent, but he said he wanted a close up one to see what I looked like happy. I was at work when he asked this and it got lost in a bunch of other messages. He then brought up exercise and how he goes to the gym pretty much every day, sometimes twice, and nothing is going to change this. He said he couldn't be with a lazy person and he doesn't find big women attractive which is his right...I'm neither, but I was 6 stone overweight and a bit of a lazy bastard until recently and his comment hit a nerve, I appreciate this is a me problem but it got to me a little. I didn't share my weight loss with him, none of his business, and he can see from my pics I'm not big (size 8--10), but he keeps banging on about what my regime is. I told him I wasn't a fan of the gym and my exercise is lots of walking, but he kept going on and on about the gym being amazing, I admire his dedication but for health reasons which I'm not sharing with him, I don't do the gym. Despite me saying I'm not into the gym, he suggested when/if we meet, we could go together and go each morning when we're on the holiday, I again said the gym isn't for me and he dropped it eventually but seemed a little cool for a while. Anyhoo, in and amongst this he asked again for a close up of me smiling which I think is a bit odd, but again the message was lost in the other messages and wasn't mentioned again.
Last night I was out with friends having early cocktails and I sent him a couple of pics of the drinks, it was relevant as we were talking about a going to cocktail making class when we're away. I was home for 9 and noticed he hadn't responded so I presumed he was out/ asleep/ whatever so I cracked on with what I was doing, and got ready for bed. At 10.30 he messaged saying I was really being unfair, that he's sent he loads of pics (I didn't ask him to) and I can't even send one close up pic of me smiling, that's he's not asking for much and he can't understand why I'm being awkward about it. I found this really odd, the other messages asking got swallowed up in other stuff and I hadn't given it another thought, but he was really insistent and intense about it. I told him I was about to turn in and jokingly suggested that he zoomed in on one of pics I'd already sent, he said I was bang out of order, he only wants the pic and why can't I just do this one thing?
I didn't respond and this morning I've woken up to a why are you ignoring me message and an apology message saying he just wants to see how much more lovely I'll look really smiling. To cut a very long story short, I'm totally put off him now, what with this and the gym/big women comments, and no longer want to meet up here or on holiday, should I message and tell him this or just let it fizzle out? How honest should I be if I do tell him? Wouldn't usually be worried about offending but he arrives on the island the day after me, knows the loose area I'm staying (he's nearby) and knows what I looked like otherwise I'd just block and delete.