A guy got my number in a bar a few weeks ago and seemed really keen to be fair. We had 2 great dates, he was consistent with calls/texts and talked a lot about the future, such as a possible weekend break later this month! I’ve not slept with him yet FYI, I’m trying to steer clear of sleeping with men and it not becoming anything more.
he’s quite a bit older than me, seems to be pretty successful and been single a year. I wouldn’t usually date someone so much older but I was genuinely attracted to him.
anyway last Sunday we had arranged a third date to go for a walk and roast, but he didn’t ring me and the following day said he’d fell asleep!? I gave him the benefit of the doubt and didn’t make a fuss.
he came round to help me with something (manly job) on Tuesday for an hour before work, which I really appreciated and he absolutely insisted. We had dinner plans for Wednesday but he had to cancel as he forgot he was taking his kid to football. He asked me out for Thursday instead, so I agreed.
Thursday lunch time he rings me and we make loose plans to meet around 5ish, but said he would call when he finishes work. 5pm comes and I call him but no answer. He doesn’t ring me back or text all night, and not on Friday either. Very odd behaviour I thought, probably just a flaky person and I didn’t bother trying to contact him either.
Saturday comes round and I’m out with my friends and he texts me saying “you out?” , which I ignored as I thought that’s so cheeky and not even an apology! I turned up at my local pub and he’s sat there with 2 of his friends! My friend went over to say hello (she met him with me a few weeks ago) and I was pretty annoyed at that, and it was so frosty with us. We didn’t even look at each other, it was weird. Eventually he said sorry, that he’d got carried away with after work drinks on Thursday and felt so bad to cancel again that he just thought it would be best to ignore me instead and give me a few days to “cool off”! I gave him a piece of my mind and said that behaviour is totally rude and unacceptable in my book, not something I expect from anyone especially someone I’ve just started dating. A text to let me know he wasn’t coming would have been more appreciated.
he tried apologising and cracking on with me again but I just couldn’t forget it or put my face straight lol my friend was chatting away to his friend so I think she just wanted me to shut up and forgive him so we could have a good night, but I just felt awkward and weird. Eventually he said he was nipping to the loo…and he backdoored it and didn’t come back, leaving me sat with his friend and my friend! Not heard a dickybird from him since. Maybe he thinks I’m too much and he needs someone easy going who will put up with this kind of behaviour.
he’s just a bad, flaky guy isn’t he?